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writes:Can anyone enlighten me to what a guy means when he says he doesn't like flings but he doesn't want anything serious. He doesn't want anything serious because he's going traveling and claims it might stop him. But then he keeps saying how he wants to get to know me and vows he's never had a one night stand. When I questioned him about it and asked whether he's considered giving something a go, and that he may regret a missed opportunity, he stopped talking to me. I'm really confused. I asked him if he was and he said no. But whenever I've tried to discuss it, he closes up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): It could be he's as confused as you are but just won't admit it. And yeah, most guys won't even think about committment, till a relationship is in full swing! I'm basically a positive thinker, so I think he's just testing the waters, so to speak. If you really like this guy, give him some time and you will probably figure it out for yourself. Trust your instinct!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 He wants a fling, but he also wants you to think he doesn't. That way maybe you won't refuse to have a little action.
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (28 November 2008):
90% of the guys on the planet will start off saying they don't want anything serious. They have fears of commitment. It's totally natural. If you just relax and give him a chance to get to know you and like you, he may change his mind. My old roommate started dating our neighbor, saying the entire time "I don't want a boyfriend, I don't want anything serious". 4 years later they got married. In fact, most of the married couples I know started out saying that. He stopped talking to you because you are coming across too aggressively and you are freaking him out. If he wants to get to know you then okay go slow and let him get to know you. Who knows, when you really get to know him - you might be saying "I don't want anything serious!" :-)
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