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writes:Should I stay with my boyfriend when I don't feel there is any passion in our relationship? Even though I know he loves me and I love him! Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Bleeding, you're a twenty-something and you describe yourself as "highly sexed". If he's a sixty-something, I am afraid that, yes, he or most anyone else would feel "too old" and like being unable to "keep up". And it wouldn't have anything at all to do with you, but with his physical abilities. All right, maybe he's not sixty-nine, but you get my point, I hope? If he were another twenty-two year old he wouldn't be saying he's old. That wouldn't cross his mind.
I have the hunch that he has told it like it is: maybe he can't keep up.
I don't think it has anything at all to do with you.
If it is indeed that he's "too old", that he couldn't change and perhaps you'd have to live with it. But if it's the insecurity that we're talking about, or feeling he rejects you, then that's something that can be fixed. Have you tried talking to him about it? How you feel, etcetera? If you haven't, try to do it and take good note of his reactions.
Keep me posted if you need to.
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reader, bleedingheart +, writes (17 April 2009):
bleedingheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is we both work long unsociable hours, but I am a very highly sexed person and he always says he is old and that he can't keep up. There have been times when I have made the effort by dreesing up and he has point blank rejected me.
I am a very insecure person and it hurts like hell when he does this. He can't even kiss me passionately without giggling. I'm scared its because its me. So do I just cut my loses or live with it?
Thanks for your answers so far.
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reader, xcrazygirl08x  +, writes (14 April 2009):
Put that flame back in there! Find some time just to be together and do something special. A bit of spontaneity wouldn't go amiss either! Candles, soft music and dimmed lighting for a little classic romance. (Try adding things to your sex life too, like new positions!) Try to remember all the things that made you both fall for each other in the first place. Little things can make a huge difference to spark up some romance and bring the passion back. If it doesn't work, then you either have to live with it, or start afresh. But make sure you try everything first so that you know you did everything you can. Hope it works out, hun. :)
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 April 2009):
All relationships cool off after a while. When you say the "passion" is gone, do you mean the love, or the novelty?
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