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writes:I'm 18 and still a virgin, but I live in a dorm and people here all just, they pretty much go after me and talk with each other about how I'm scared to have sex just cuz I havent ever done it. Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): let's put it this way... i'm 18.. and i really really wish i was still a virgin. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): No there isn't. Don't have sex until you feel ready to, it's your life.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 It's a personal decision, and I think it's a wise decision to wait until you're ready. It's wrong to make value judegements about a person because of a personal decision. I know of people who are even older than you who have conserved their virginity (I'm not at liberty to divulge their names, but they're out there :) ). As for these people, it's not their business. I hate "metiche" people (people who mind others' business)... tell them to get a life!! The people that say these things about you are not important.
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reader, cls1990  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 i wish i was still a virgin!ignore the people in your dorm, if they are having sex it cant be that good if all they are bothered about is your sex life!please dont do what i did and give into peer pressure, its the biggest regret of my life!
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reader, UnderWhere +, writes (14 April 2009):
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all.
I'm 16 and lost my virginity very early and I just wish that I had been as mature as I thought I was and kept my pants on.
I have the greatest admiration for you for not giving in to anyone and waiting for the right person. KUDOS
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): Be proud! I agree with DoubleM, and I salute you
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 It strongly indicates that you are an intelligent woman with high personal moral standards, self-respect and discretion. Nothing wrong with that.
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reader, CrazyMind +, writes (14 April 2009):
 As an 18yo virgin, I say there's nothing wrong with it.Your virginity is something special to you, and is something you can only give away once. In a society bombarded with sex, from media and peer pressure, it can be all too easy to bow to the social norm and go out, lose your virginity. I commend you for not doing so, make sure your first time is special, and is with somebody that you plan to spend your life with - and that they feel the same way to you.Losing virginity to the 'wrong' person is one thing that many people regret, don't let it be you that regrets it too.I wish you all the best with ignoring the pressures that society seems to place on everybody; and hope that you decide to wait for that special someone, and when it feels right.Regards,Crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): No... there is however something endearing and relieving about you being a virgin at 18. One day, you'll meet a guy of equally high standards who will respect you infinitely more than these other girls will be respected. Don't worry about what they're saying. Just be proud of yourself stay true to who you are and be glad that you actually have some depth to your personality. One day you'll be sooo happy that you did. And seriously, don't these people have their own lives? How can they spend so much time making someone else feel bad about being a virgin?? that's ridiculous.When they say something to you about it, don't act embarrassed... Do what i did in third grade when people made gun of me for liking the school broccoli... confidently say "Yeah.. i like broccoli. what's your point?"Except, without the broccoli.
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reader, CaliGrown09 +, writes (14 April 2009):
 I'm about to turn 18, and I'm still a virgin also. My situation is that I want to loose it, I just need to find the right person to loose it with. I don't know what you think & what your case is.. but people are frickin virgins when there 30!! It depends on who you are, and if your ready or not, & if it's with the right person. No... nothings wrong with you! Living in a dorm, or not..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): There is nothing wrong in being a virgin at your age. It is good actually as you have respect for yourself. Only lose it to the person you love and when you are ready. I am still a virgin at 22 years old, and finishing university so do not feel pressured. People say what they want and I know people who regret losing their virginity at a younger age. To give you a warning, there are guys out there who want to be the first to take a girl's virginity for their own ego. It is a competition on who can score the most or get lucky with girls. A guy who respects you will not push you to lose your virginity. You know you are better than them and you can only lose your virginity once. Be strong and don't let others get to you about your virginity. And, it isn't their business whether you are or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, it just means your pickier than they are. In the end its better to live without regets anyways and I've heard plenty of people say they'd wished they had waited.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 April 2009):
 In four words: No.
In more words: Whether you're a virgin or not is your business. If they say you're scared to have sex, use irony and ask whether they have a mirror :-). Or, you can tell them to mind their own business.
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