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writes:just looking for body advice.. Im 61kgs and probably around 165 cms maybe a bit taller. Im not fat, im curvy. I like my bum i like that i have one. The only things i dont really like is my boobs, there a bit small but im not that phased. The thing is my bf is always saying things like that food going straight to ur thighs or making jokes like i have a big bum but then saying he likes it.. He is always telling me to do more exercise but im happy to be me. Are all guys like this? Its like he just wants me to be skinny. Im an Australian size 10 and i dont want to be smaller. I dont even like the skinny look and think the likes of scarlet johanssen and mariah carey have the best bodies but he seems to like skinny girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): I'm pretty sick of all the skinny girl put downs in order to make the bigger ones feel better about themselves.
The ones which are the worst are the implications that skinny chicks arent real woman and dont have a butt and boobs... I mean what the hell??
Example: 'i like my bum i like that i have one' - implying that skinny chicks dont. It's really quite unfair, ignorant, pathetic and so unnessessary...
Anyway to answer your question: Of course all guys dont like to have skinny gfs! Auz size 10 is a perfect hot size! Your bf sounds a bit dickish and i'd sort him out if he were mine. Saying you have a big bum but he likes it is quite sweet- but it is ruined by his sad comments about your food going straight to your thighs and asking you to do more exercise.
Now, you should do regular exercise- for you though! And not to get skinnier but just to keep healthy! :)
But you shouldnt put up with your boyfs put downs!
Next time he asks you to do more exercise, ask him to have more tact. React negatively when he makes these comments (not negative as in snapping at him) but let him know hes being sad to you. Say something like 'umm thats kinda sad could you not make jokes like that?' Or try confronting him to find out his true intentions with a 'So you want me to be skinnier do you?' and go from there.
Remember you shouldnt have to change for any guy and your boyf should be nice towards your feelings if he really cares. He should be makin you feel good about yourself not bad!
Goodluck! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): In reponse to
Ginalolabridga + ?
implying that bodies skinner than Beyonce's or Mariah Carey's are not ones of real woman and calling them stick insects is just going the other way and not helping.
To make 'fat people' feel better we dont need to put down the 'flat-chested stick insects' And vice versa.
Everyone is beautiful in their way- fat/skinny- curvy/slender and everyone has their different preferences.
To the poster of the comment: this bf seems to be making you feel insecure and is that what bfs are supposed to do? No, they are supposed to love you and cherish you and make you feel the happiest in the world. So if i were you id tell him to stop with the putdowns unless hes want to be put down or 'put away' himself
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): (Stick insect) not a nice term for another woman....it's the equivalent of calling another woman a fat pig.....which would not be tolerated ,yet it seems acceptable to name call an underweight girl...always puzzles me that one ???via con dios.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 April 2009):
 No, not all guys are like this. You'd be surprise how many of us actually want more flesh than what you would find in a skinny woman.
Satin, I know you're married and this is nothing more than a compliment, which I will take back if you ask me to, but I like you :-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): hi
He is rather silly.....take no notice.
Some men prefer skinny birds and some men prefer fat birds.....both types have their qualities....some are designed for speed and some for comfort......we are all different.....CURVY is beautiful and SLENDER is beautiful only if the beauty is within
via con dios
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (13 April 2009):
from my experience men internationally love and lust over curvy girls much more than skinny ones
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): It really depends on the guy, where some prefer skinny, curvy, etc. Just keep yourself healthy, and tell your boyfriend to stop with those comments because they are hurting you. Now, I am an Asian who happens to be taller then average for Asian women, but not fat or skinny. My point is that you are perfectly fine, and you don't need to change for anyone. Your boyfriend should accept whatever you are, because everyone is different and far from perfect. There is nothing wrong with you, and don't ever change your body for a guy.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (13 April 2009):
 You are exactly my height and weight, and there is nothing wrong with us :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha yeah didnt think about that i think something like 5.5 maybe 130 pounds? But my maths isnt the best :-p
And u all made me smile! especially army medic your one funny guy. Haha!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Your boyfriend or I hope soon to be ex-boyfriend is a prick! Your height and weight seem perfectly normal to me.
I think Emily is right here I think it's time you started dishing out the Man hood put downs and see how he likes it.
Overall though find a guy who likes you as you are and let this idiot find himself chasing skinny girls, with bad hair, and bad skin because they are malnourished.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 April 2009):
No your boyfriend is being an arse.
Next time he says anything turn round and tell him to shut the hell up. I bet he's not got perfect abs so turn it on him and tell him that he needs to get his fat arse to a gym and work on his massive lack of 6 pack before he DARES to say anything to you.
He probably is only messing about and teasing but that kind of teasing can really hurt and cause damage so you need to tell him that it is NOT acceptable and you will NOT become anorexic.
Tell him if he doesn't like your body then he can bugger off and find someone else to give an eating disorder to.
I bet he has NO idea how much this is bothering you and if you have go at him about it he'll be on his knees apologising and he'll not do it again.
Just keep snapping back at him every time he says anything and he'll stop. You need to let him know he's being an idiot.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (13 April 2009):
I'm America, so I have no clue what size and weight and height you just gave, lol, sorry.
But down to the question, some guys do prefer skinny girls, some guys like normal, some like curvy, etc etc...
If you are happy with how you look, then that is all that matters. Tell him straight up that you don't appreciate his comments and you won't be sticking around to hear more if he can't zip his lips. You don't deserve the little jabs and remarks he is making. If he wants a stick thin girl, then he can troll the mall looking for one. and guess what, she most likely won't have the confidance or exuberance that you posess.
Just make sure that no matter what size you are, you stay healthy. We all have ups and downs with our weights due to stress or change in life styles. If you've gained a few don't sweat it, just cut some corners and be a little more active, if you want to be. But don't ever change your body for some guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): I dont like skinny women, i like cury women. Every man is different. However most men seem to like the slim look, but Australian size 10 isnt big anyway. You seem happy with what you have and thats the most important thing. Your bf dropping hints like that isnt very nice to be honest. Hes being a bit of a jerk. Next time he makes a comment like that tell him he has a small willy haha. Seriously though, the answer to your question is NO. Tell your boyfriend that comments like that hurt you and he should stop.
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