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writes:Hey y'all! Ummm I just need to ask this but why do we cry when someone dies? Or leaves us? Or anything like that why do you think we cry other than when we get hurt? Cause I can't help but cry everytime I see my fathers pictures and think of his words of wisdom for me.......everytime I think bout the times he's made me laugh.......I can't stop the tears from coming now......I used to never be able to cry.....like I was numb or something.......please help me I need to know why we cry when we know that this is a part of life.......? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 There are so many things that will remind you of him. For example photos, music, memories, everyday jobs he used to do, places you know he liked.... The list is probably endless of the things that will set you off.
Just hang on in there.
Fiona.
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (16 April 2009):
bOy CrAzY;} is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut I love to cry I feel kind of refreshed afterwards......but not when I can't stop crying! I can't stop of when I see his picture! And sometimes I don't even realize I'm crying!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): crying is normal to get over the sadness huni
ur dad is in heaven watching over you, he wouldnt want you to be sad, my dad passed away too x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Death is part of life, but a very painful part of it. I see that it is your father who passed away. This is a significant death for you. Please accept my sympathies. I did not know your father, but I know what you are feeling.
What you are going through is a very normal thing. You lost someone you loved, someone who cared for you, and, for all practical purposes, that person cannot be replaced.
You will also feel bad for wanting to continue living when your father is dead.
I am sure that his words of wisdon, in this situation, would be something like I am going to tell you. Death is a bad thing that comes with life. While it is just normal to mourn the person we lost, the right way to see it is to feel happy about all the times you shared together. You had your father for a long time, even if death took him away. Rejoice in that. Celebrate his life.
You are a young woman with all of your life ahead of you. Live it fully, my dear. Grow to be a woman your father would be proud of. When your triumphs begin to take place, he will be by your side, sharing your happiness, with the emotion of seeing his girl glow filling his heart. And, you will be with him, too.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (15 April 2009):
Awww huggs. Sorry to hear this. You are clearly going through a huge grieving process for your Dad. I dread the day when it's one of my parents. However I have had bereavements before and lost a close friend who was 27 at the time and it is awful. I don't know how long it has been for you. However sometimes shock can make you numb and you block out things to be busy or whatever and perhaps at the moment you have time to think and are less busy? I think you just need to let it out and get all the support you can from your friends. After all you are young to be going through this.
Fiona.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (15 April 2009):
 When someone dies they are no longer visible to us, they are taken away, gone, and we don't know to where or why this happens and our brain gets thrown into what is known as a state of dis-equilibrium and confusion as we cannot justify to ourselves the loss and we cannot explain to ourselves the rationality and reason for the occurrance of death even if we know about it, accept it and are comfortable or wise to it. We cry to let the emotional stress of the situation, the confusion and great sadness of the situation out.
As the body comes to terms with the loss, comes to terms with the person being gone and re-equilibrates itself with time and understanding, you heel and the pain gets easier and you stop crying.
We cry when someone dies because it is final and we just cannot rationally eplain why.
I lost my father when i was in my early 20s, my nan the same year, i miss them both terribly still but i dont cry anymore - it does get easier with time.
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reader, CrazyMind +, writes (15 April 2009):
 I can't answer why we cry, but can say that there's nothing to be ashamed of in crying.
Whenever I think of my dad, I know there's a feeling that I'll cry, and sometimes I do. Whenever I think about my one regret: Not telling him I loved him, I tend to cry.
Crying is something we do, to show our emotions of both happiness and, more often, sadness. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed about crying!
- Crazy.
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