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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Am I not fulfilling him if he's watching this category of porn?
Q. Ok here is the deal. My fiance has an obession of black porn. I am asian and average looking women. All I see is ebony categories. There was one porn where he had watched a white guy and a black girl porn. I had confronted him about if he likes ...
A. 14 October 2011: Yes, I agree. This is absolutely different.
I don't buy it when people say they join such sites "just to see what they are like". I always think that their real intent is to see if they like them. And, if they do, they stay.... (read in full...)
Am I not fulfilling him if he's watching this category of porn?
Q. Ok here is the deal. My fiance has an obession of black porn. I am asian and average looking women. All I see is ebony categories. There was one porn where he had watched a white guy and a black girl porn. I had confronted him about if he likes ...
A. 14 October 2011: It's obvious that he likes black girls, but that doesn't mean he doesn't like you.
I thinkt he real issue here is that the porn is making you feel insecure. Why don't you talk to him and say it? "Hey, I hate it when you see porn! Am I not good... (read in full...)
I'm 18, single and unemployed but I want a baby
Q. I have posted a question on here before and received good advice, therefore I wanted to ask for opinions on something that has been puzzling me for some time. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20, despite my young age, I am desperate for a child. My ...
A. 14 October 2011: I don't know why you feel like this, but having a child when you don't have a job is a bad idea. Very bad. Let your hormones or whatever do their job, and let your brains do their job as well.... (read in full...)
Miscarried, should I tell the dad?
Q. I want some advice as its a very sensitive issue. I recently had a affair with a married man which I posted about on here and after getting advice I ended the affair however I have since miscarried our baby and I just don't know if I should tell him ...
A. 14 October 2011: If you told him about the pregnancy, tell him about the abortion. Just let him know you miscarried (preferably in person) and leave.
I know you're feeling bad about this, but I would like to warn you that he just might want to get close to you a... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 14 October 2011: Her being married three times doesn't mean she's a sex addict. People don't marry for sex only, and you don't have to marry to get sex.
Now, you do seem to have a point as to a red flag. I don't know what it is, but something is the matter.... (read in full...)
Is age really just a number
Q. Hello Cupids. Im a little curious about your opinions. Today I found out a boy I use to go to school with likes me, hes really nice and everything I don't know him all that well. He gave me his number today and well the only thing that is...
A. 14 October 2011: If he's fifteen, he's underage. If he's 18, go for him.... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 14 October 2011: You are a bad guy, poster. You have made this girl go through a lot. I think she should leave you.... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks since I found out his devastating news!
Q. Ok,I need some advice. I've been to ashamed to share this with family or friends yet. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I'm 28 and he's 26. I found out recently almost by accident that before he started dating me he was involved...
A. 14 October 2011: I won't give you an opinion about your boyfriend's behavior. I will tell you that you can do one of two things: break up with him, or go back. The decision needs to be yours.... (read in full...)
Deciding not to use condoms....how safe is the pill really?
Q. I've just started dating a new guy and have gone on the pill. We've both been checked out and are looking to not use condoms soon. I'm just worried about the possibility of getting pregnant. I know that the pill is 99.9999999% effective - but what ...
A. 13 October 2011: Why don't you use both until you know that your boyfriend does not have any disease?... (read in full...)
I'm 13, and I want to kiss my teacher!
Q. I have a huge crush on my form teacher and no one knows but every day when I come in to form I get more and more desperate to kiss him. I dont know how to do it though, or to do it at all. Also i really want to tell my friend but i am also worried ...
A. 5 October 2011: Poster: don't give in to those impulses. We all have had them and we know better than to follow them. It's OK to feel that way, but don't act on those feelings.
Johnny would be flattered, Eyes.
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Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?
Q. im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...
A. 28 September 2011: This is a very, very, very, very, very, very, very... bad idea. Don't do it.... (read in full...)
I have only had sex with my current boyfriend, am I missing out on experiencing sex with other guys?
Q. ok so i am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend. im 23 and hes the only person ive had sex with and dated! and hes 24 and i am not his first, im his 13th sex object. right now in our relationship were happy, i know he loves me, he was the ...
A. 26 September 2011: I feel that one doesn't usually have this kind of urges when one is sure about loving someone. I wonder if the relationship is really what you want.
Or maybe you're upset that he had sex before while you didn't, so you sort of want to get even... (read in full...)
She wants me to visit her in USA. She does not know I had a criminal record in the past which may prevent me getting a visa
Q. A month ago I got a letter from a female I met in Florida back in 2003. Truth be told,I have always wondered what could have been. I have been invited over. Her family are bending over backwards for me. My problem being,I have a criminal record. It ...
A. 26 September 2011: Tell her.... (read in full...)
How do let a girl know she is precious to you?
Q. It's one year since your 1st date. You've been generally happy together. What do you do to show your girlfriend how much she means to you? Do you still make it obvious to her and the world that she's most precious to you? ...
A. 26 September 2011: Make it clear that she's precious to you, but that it doesn't mean you will let her walk all over you. There is a big difference between loving a woman to bits and letting her do whatever she wants.
As to telling the world, don't do it. The worl... (read in full...)
Is a woman who doesn't want kids doomed to be single forever?
Q. Is a woman (who's 33 in two months)who doesn't want a man with kids doomed to be single forever? I am in the process of splitting from a father of two who i have been with for two years. experience has taught me that i'm too insecure to embr...
A. 26 September 2011: No. But I believe you will possibly be with someone who will have children of his own, so take that in consideration.... (read in full...)
Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?
Q. Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and...
A. 14 September 2011: Since you left out important information, the advice you originally got, which includes my own, is useless. Not because it's good or bad but because we were giving opinions as to a situation that is completely different.
It makes me angry th... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in a difficult situation with my lesbian teacher and I need help? Can I fix this and how?
Q. I'm 18. I need some advice ASAP so I hope you guys can help me out. k, so around 2 months ago, I saw my teacher exiting a public venue, holding hands with a woman who looked to be around the same age as her (late 20s). Okay, so I know it was chil...
A. 10 September 2011: She wanted to keep this private and you sort of snooped. I believe you when you say you didn't tell anybody, but I can also understand her suspecting you. Whether you're lesbian or not doesn't change the fact that whatever she was doing at that ... (read in full...)
Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?
Q. Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and...
A. 10 September 2011: If I were in that situation and had rejected such an advance, I would just forget about it. I wouldn't feel a need to tell Ms. Danielepew because there would be nothing to tell.... (read in full...)
My wife thinks I have a small penis!
Q. I have a troubling issue in my marriage. To get right to the point, it has to do with penis size and my wife's perception. I am about 5.75 by 5 around and I always thought fairly average. When my wife and I talk it is clear that she thinks ...
A. 9 September 2011: My niece says that her impression is that you're a great guy and your wife is trying to find an excuse to be angry.... (read in full...)
My wife thinks I have a small penis!
Q. I have a troubling issue in my marriage. To get right to the point, it has to do with penis size and my wife's perception. I am about 5.75 by 5 around and I always thought fairly average. When my wife and I talk it is clear that she thinks ...
A. 8 September 2011: Something is the matter with the marriage. Let us just say that she saw your penis the first time you had sex, and yet she married you. It's a little late to complain, I would say.
Between you and me, I have the feeling that whatever problems... (read in full...)
Love and sex are 2 different things so is it ok to sleep with my cousin when I have a boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I am a girl and I slept couple of times with my cousin. We're not in love with eachother (at least I'm not, and he said he isn't either) but sometimes we still share a bed. Is that wrong? I recently got a boyfriend, but I have my doubts about ...
A. 7 September 2011: I had never thought of this one. Wait! Others have!
"You're my wife, dear. All those other women mean nothing to me. It's just sex, see?"... (read in full...)
How do I get her to let me into her heart?
Q. i am 62 and seperated from my wife , i have a girlfriend of 59, she too is seperated pending divorce , she told me her husband broke her heart, and she has put up a wall, my problem is that i am deeply in love with her ,and want her to let me in to ...
A. 7 September 2011: As is the case with all other women, she will let you in if she wants to.
You don't have to prove you're a good guy. You are a good guy already. When you try to prove you're good, you prove you will let people string you along, and that usually ... (read in full...)
Why are these married friends suddenly ignoring each other?
Q. There are two people in our circle of friends who have suddenly started ignoring each other/playing it cool with each other. We are all married and have been friends for many years and do things together with our respective spouses. They are not ...
A. 7 September 2011: It could be anything.
I suppose this is making you feel uncomfortable, but my advice is that you do absolutely nothing. If you do, you'll be entering the Realm of Gossip and the Kingdom of Other People's Business.... (read in full...)
My Boyfriends Favourite Perfume is his ex's
Q. Hi, I just wanted to run something by you girls and guys, see what you think. When I started going out with my guy we were talking about perfumes and stuff and he said that his favourite perfume was Flowerbomb.(this is a perfume ive always reall...
A. 7 September 2011: There may be something, but I don't think the scent alone is indicative of it.... (read in full...)
Women: Is a gentle heart, or rather a fundamental aversion to violence and conflict, just a completely unattractive trait for a man?
Q. I am at heart a very mild person. I do not like conflict. Violence, of any kind, is simply unnatural to me, and goes completely against my nature. I grew up in a suburb where violence was never part of our daily lives. Sure, some kids chose to ...
A. 7 September 2011: I think you have a misdiagnosis of your problem. I don't think being reasonable is a deal breaker for anyone.
In my humble opinion, the problem is that you never seem to be able to stand up for yourself, or her. THAT is a deal breaker. Pay atte... (read in full...)
Is my husband using me to be his nanny and housekeeper?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 6 years. we have two toddlers, one of whom is in preschool, the other one is too young still. I work part time in the evenings. My husband works days. I run the house, balance the checkbook, etc (I am in ...
A. 7 September 2011: My impression is that this happens to many couples. It doesn't have to be that way, however.... (read in full...)
My Boyfriends Favourite Perfume is his ex's
Q. Hi, I just wanted to run something by you girls and guys, see what you think. When I started going out with my guy we were talking about perfumes and stuff and he said that his favourite perfume was Flowerbomb.(this is a perfume ive always reall...
A. 7 September 2011: Men always get to smell their women's scents, and quite naturally sometimes you like them and associate them to the woman in question. That is very normal.
It is also possible that a particular scent will remind you of a person, and you will lik... (read in full...)
My husband won't have sex until I dress up like a man??
Q. I'm 32, and my husband's 36, and I work in website design/corporate sites on a freelance basis, my husband's a chef at a local restaurant/Indian place. Over the past 3-4 weeks or so, he's been begging me to dress up differently when having sex. ...
A. 7 September 2011: This is a tough one.
It should be unnecessary for me to say this, but I can only answer from my own perspective.
In my books, any man who needs his WOMAN to look male is at the very least bisexual. Particularly one who looks hot like you (I ... (read in full...)
I need help to decide between two men
Q. I need help to decide between two men. I created a pickle for myself and I am having a hard time finding the right way out of it. Background: I have dated a guy for five years. I am currently 26, he is currently 30 years old. It has been five ye...
A. 7 September 2011: If your heart, passion, hormones or brain do not clearly tell you who you want to go for, the answer has to be that you are not really into any of the two.... (read in full...)
Finding a unique name for a baby boy
Q. Dear all...hope you all are fit and fine. I needed you guys help. My sis has just given birth to a baby boy and we are looking for a sweet unique name starting with either A or S. Can you all please suggest some unique names....Thank you...
A. 30 August 2011: Just my grain of sand. Names that are actually very common in other countries or languages will sound "unique" in New Zealand. Example: "Antonio". Very common name in Spanish - Portuguese - Italian but not so common in the English-speaking ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 16 August 2011: As someone else said, this is not silly at all. Just keep going, courageously as always. We're all rooting for you.... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 9 August 2011: Keep going!... (read in full...)
Is he playing me or does he want to get to know me?
Q. what does it mean when a guy ask you for a hug and we just met. I just met him already he is asking me for hugs. The first hug friendly and second one when he gave me a goodbye hug he held me closer put his hands around my waist. he likes joking ...
A. 6 August 2011: He does have more than a casual interest. Whether he just wants to play or not, that I can't tell.... (read in full...)
I'm devastated over the death of my nephew
Q. Hi everyone. Help me grieve this loss. Yesterday I got a terrible news from my home country Pakistan about my eldest nephew's death. He was 16 and perfectly healthy and growing. He hung himself and died. I was called from my home with this news a...
A. 6 August 2011: I understand what you feel, poster. All I can say is, I hope your nephew is in a better place now. You were in the United States and were too far to help him. Remember him with love and remember the happy times.... (read in full...)
Why do people take an instant dislike to me ?
Q. Hey, well i was wondering why people seem to take an instant dislike to me, or simpley start on me for no reason what so ever. i currently have one friend, i have tryed to get along with other people but they seem to either t...
A. 6 August 2011: Perhaps you're doing something that appears completely natural to you but is not that natural to others. Sense of humor is one thing you need to be very careful about. What makes you laugh can make someone else cringe. But, I don't know what it ... (read in full...)
For any man having an affair
Q. I have a question for any married, or attached men out there who have had an affair- Did any of you have (or are having) a long term affair, and have fallen in love with the "Other woman", but still stay with your wife or girlfriend? If this i...
A. 6 August 2011: I'm not having an affair but this one is very easy to figure out. So, if you can accept my answer here it is:
People stay married for a variety of reasons, and love is only one of them. I'm sure you've noticed that people stay married for fina... (read in full...)
I've discovered my penis is smaller than average and its really messing with my mind!
Q. I've recently done some research and I've found out the WORST possible news. I've discovered that my penis is below average in all aspects. I've been concerned with this for years and it's one of the reasons I've turned down or just didn't atte...
A. 6 August 2011: This is an easy one (though not for you). You can't change the size of your penis. You can agonize over that, or not. I suggest you don't. Eventually, you won't anyways.
By the way, never trust a porn movie :-).... (read in full...)
I worry about having children because my boyfriend's family have different illnesses
Q. I have been going out with my bf for about 2yrs and 3months now, we live together and all. we arent going to have kids for a while as we are both not ready. im 21 and he is 27. the other day i brought up kids with him..and i said i was abit worried ...
A. 6 August 2011: Having a child is always a leap of faith. Of course, if you KNOW for sure that you have a disease you can pass on to your children, then it would seem a good thing to do not to have children. But sometimes what to do is not as clear as you think. ... (read in full...)
Gay marrying a woman
Q. Hi, i am 29 yr gay, but i look like other normal guys, my family is pressurising me to get married, bt i dont like gls ,i like ther boobs bt nt vagina, i want to kno can i b able to fk my wife nd satisfy her? I am very tense,i have to marry,pls give ...
A. 5 August 2011: The only solution I can recommend is that you be yourself. If you marry someone for the sake of not appearing gay, then you're damaging the other person, and yourself. I know this is much, much easier said than done, but it is all I can say. Be ... (read in full...)
Why do some think black people are tough and can't be romantic?
Q. Hi, I've always wondered Why some of us think that black people are tough or cannot be romantic. I couldn't recall from where did I get that idea. My friends avoid black guys, they consider them harsh and don't consider starting a relation...
A. 5 August 2011: Frenchie: your friends are probably racists. Obviously you're not.... (read in full...)
My mom had sex with my cousin! I can't look at them the same way again!
Q. Ok so I can't stop thinking about this. Recently my mom told my sisters and I that she and my cousin had sex. He's 23 and my mom is 33. I'm 16. So its very awkward. We were talking about how my cousins relationship is on the rocks with his fiancé ...
A. 5 August 2011: It is easy to understand why you feel awkward. It's not easy to receive this kind of news, and to understand what it implies. I'm afraid, however, that there is nothing you can do. You can respond to this situation, but only you can choose how. ... (read in full...)
His penis is to large and he hates it making our sex infrequent, what can I do?
Q. I'm 26, my boyfriend's 28, we've been together for a month now. He's a lovely guy; kind, caring, decent. However, we've only had sex infrequently. Reason why? His penis is too large and he HATES it, absolutely HATES it; he says women should "...
A. 5 August 2011: My old age tells me this guy is not telling the truth. There may be a problem, but his size, or that of his penis, is not the problem here. In principle he should see a doctor. In practice, I feel that would be a waste of money. Since he is 28,... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 3 August 2011: You rock!... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: It is normal for you to feel this way.
We haven't seen you, poster, but none of us would reject you for your condition. That doesn't define you.
We never know how long we will live of what will happen tomorrow. Just live! Focus on enjoyin... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: Your feelings are pretty much understandable. I trust you will meet someone who will appreciate you for who you are. You are not your disease, dear. You're a lovely person. Know that for sure.... (read in full...)
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