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writes:Hi, I am a girl and I slept couple of times with my cousin. We're not in love with eachother (at least I'm not, and he said he isn't either) but sometimes we still share a bed. Is that wrong? I recently got a boyfriend, but I have my doubts about him. Is it still wrong to sleep with my cousin? Because , love and sex are two different things after all...
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 That's something people who want to cheat say to make themselves feel less guilty.
No matter how hard you try love and sex aren't so different.
And your boyfriend certainly won't see it your way.
I'm a firm believer of 'You can't have your cake and eat it too.'
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 Well said, Danielepew!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 I had never thought of this one. Wait! Others have!
"You're my wife, dear. All those other women mean nothing to me. It's just sex, see?"
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (7 September 2011):
Love and sex may be different, but they should not be mutually exclusive, and I suspect you know that.
Not only is agreeing to be monogamous and not actually living up to the agreement wrong, but so is stringing along a boyfriend you are unsure of. If you don't want to be with him, or wish to be available to other people, then let him find someone who is not only sure, but who can easily honour their commitment.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 They're different, you're right. That's the good thing about relationships though, they combine the two in a way. If you've agreed to a monogamous relationship with your boyfriend, having sex with someone else is cheating (and therefore wrong) period. Unless you've agreed that it's OK to have sex with other people, you can't rationalize this one away. You have to choose.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 Love and sex can be two different things. But when you are in a relationship they are supposed to be united. If you have sex with someone else while in a relationship that is called cheating, and is morally wrong. It is wrong to cheat because it shows that you do not have love for your boyfriend, and that you do not respect him. When someone cheats it hurts their partner enormously. Doing something so wrong to your partner must mean you do not care at all about them, but are a selfish person.
Don't cheat. If you do not love and respect your boyfriend to have sex only with him, then you should not be in a relationship with him.
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