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writes: Is a woman (who's 33 in two months)who doesn't want a man with kids doomed to be single forever?I am in the process of splitting from a father of two who i have been with for two years. experience has taught me that i'm too insecure to embrace the situation a blended family brings, possibly due to my own upbringing, and possibly cause i don't have kids of my own i can't comprehend how it feels to have a child.I have my own place, i'm good looking, i hold down a good paid job and i have my own hobbies and interests but am i doomed to a love life of some other woman's pride and joy with no one i can't forge forwards with into the future on an equal footing (i.e. the most important person in each other's life)but some man who is in some way always committed to another woman and their kids. are there not any men my age who didnt want kids that young? or should i just either accept the crumbs i've been given or resign myself to being alone forever?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): I am a 37-yr old child free guy who has never wanted kids. Can I find a woman who doesn't want or doesn't already have them in her 30s? Nope. And while people have suggested online dating, I have to say that the pickings there are ridiculously slim. I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I am probably going to be alone following the split of my last relationship (as usual, the woman concerned thought I would change my mind about not wanting kids) or have to find some way of coping with kids in my life. It sucks. Despite all my good qualities, my only worth is as a sperm donor.Stick to your guns - men with kids are just going to wind you up. Good luck!!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 No. But I believe you will possibly be with someone who will have children of his own, so take that in consideration.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): I'm sure there are men out there that don't have kids and that will accept you. The online dating sounds like a good idea but I'm sure there's some around your area of the world.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 I don't see anything wrong in not wanting kids. And honestly there are men out there who would prefer a partner who isn't wanting kids.
Maybe try an online dating site? If you put it as one of your priorities (no kids and don't want kids) you might find a guy who thinks the same way.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (25 September 2011):
 Not at all! There are plenty of men that are child free by choice too. If you put out a dating profile online, make sure to share that up front!
There will be people that feel the need to question your choice. Ignore them.
I am sure you will be just fine! You have a lot going for you and the freedom of your life! Good Luck!
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