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anonymous
writes:I've recently done some research and I've found out the WORST possible news.I've discovered that my penis is below average in all aspects. I've been concerned with this for years and it's one of the reasons I've turned down or just didn't attempt to have sex. Now, I may NEVER have sex.I'm 5 1/2 in. length and 1 1/2 in. in width which is below average in both categories and I feel that as someone in his early twenties, I should maybe be bigger than this! What should I do? Does it even really matter? I need answers soon because this is really messing with me mentally.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Which means to a great number of women, you don't even need a penis AT ALL to satisfy them. A great number can only orgasm with oral sex, some use their own fingers to stimulate themselves during intercourse, so your penis is completely irrelevant to many women's satisfaction.
Stop worrying. Concentrate on improving your oral sex skills and you'll be fine.
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reader, aresu  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 you are too worried over something that is not worth worry about, your size in average and even if it were not you can still please a woman, just dont think about it too much, is natural to feel insecure about ourselves, but in truth, is proved that men make the penis size as a big deal more than women do.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (6 August 2011):
 This is an easy one (though not for you). You can't change the size of your penis. You can agonize over that, or not. I suggest you don't. Eventually, you won't anyways.
By the way, never trust a porn movie :-).
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reader, silenced +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Yeah, you're size is average. Not small at all.
Now, saying that, just because your penis size is average doesn't mean your sex will be average. It's all in the techniques you use. Every woman likes something different. No woman is going to look down on your size, but just figure out different things about them and what they like in bed by experimenting and going with the flow. They will have a good time as long as you do and as long as you notice what they like. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): If you are measuring correctly, you are almost exactly average. The differences between you and about 80% of the adult men on this planet are almost certainly imperceptable to almost any woman you ever likely to be with.
You are also almost exactly the same size as the best-selling sex toys.
Will you ever encounter a woman who's been with someone larger? Odds are pretty good the answer is "yes" if you're with more than a couple women. Welcome to the 80% club.
Women also vary quite a bit in size down there. A few will find you to be close to the largest they are comfortable with. A few others are likely to prefer larger. But, the same is true of height, weight, etc. Welcome to the 80% club.
If you encounter difficulty in relationships because of the size issue, odds are extremely high the problems will be the result of your insecurities, not a real problem satisfying women. (been there, done that)
Trust me, I've spent waaaay more time researching this issue than any normal person would. Don't waste your time and energy thinking about this the way I have. It leads nowhere and accomplishes nothing.
You have to deal with the actual choices you have in the real world. You can't choose to be built like a porn star. The choice you have is to either focus on the other 99% of a relationship that actually matters in most cases, or waste your time worrying about something you can't change like I have done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, still a virgin (in a traditional sense) so I'm very concerned. Thang all for the clarification. I guess my misconception comes from comparing my package to other Black men (whohappen to be in pin films).
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Excuse me but that's not below average, that's pretty average actually. Where did you get your information? The average penis length is 3.9 to 7.9 inches. You're in that zone, so relax.
You're also fairly big if I may add, I don't think you've ever been with a woman if you think this is small. My guess is you wont be able to fit all of it inside her as women aren't that "deep" and only the first 2 or so inches are that sensitive in most women. Which is around the point where the G-spot is.
Anyway, WOMEN DONT CARE that much about your penis. We go for the total package, and when it comes down to it your penis size isn't even on the list of what women want or need from a man in a relationship. We just don't care, ok?
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Your mother has cancer.
You're fired.
Your wife is leaving you for your best friend.
Your Penis is infected and we'll need to chop it off.
Theres a lot more worse news than your penis being five inches. Your penis is average and fine, theres a lot more things in life than your penis size.
Your size can please a woman, no problem. It's not going to turn her off. Your insecurity about it is the turn off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the info. For the record, I've never been one to short change the women I involve myself with, so selfish wouldn't be my style in the bed. I hope my potential lover will enjoy what I can provide. That said, I'm scared to TELL her now that I know the specs of my wares.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Man, I am right around that size and I have never had any complaints. If you are worried about being smaller it may just cause you to put more effort into pleasuring a girl which she will really enjoy. People who naturally have a huge penis tend to think that they can just lay back and that is it.
You're at what I would say is the perfect size because you know you're going to work, now you have to realize that it is more than enough to satisfy a girl. Also just a side note, if you keep the hair short trimmed or shaven it makes it appear bigger.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Thats the same size as my boyfriends penis. I've measured it :-P
And I am understating when I say I am a very satisfied woman.
Don't get hung up on size, sure a 2 inch penis woulden't be much fun, but really, you have nothing to complain about.
Want to be a good lover? Buy a few books, be sensual, make a connection to your partner and don't be a lazy or selfish lover!
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