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reader, kaelabear  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 I had this same problem. Just recently, I found out that we have a really young male teacher in our school. He can't be over 25. Kissing is a big no. But FRIENDLY flirting is okay. Don't try to go for a full on flirt. That could get you both in a lot of trouble.It's not likely that you are in love with him. Just a simple high-school crush.And sometimes, teachers have strange urges. Like flirting or coming onto a student.People are going to tell you all the time to ignore your feelings. It's easier said than done though. Just remember, you're 13. You have a full life ahead of you. Don't let some silly teacher get you in trouble and ruin the rest of your childhood/teenage years.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 October 2011):
 I found a post for you to read: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/a-student-is-in-love-with-me-how.html
Any behaviour like this from you is going to be taken by him as seriously out-of-bounds, over-the-top, ridiculous teen girl fantasies. He could lose his job because you are having trouble remembering the boundaries that exist for YOUR protection and frankly, for HIS.
Do you have any idea how many teenagers crush on their teachers? We get literally hundreds of questions like this on the site and if anyone does actually pursue the teacher, it usually ends up in a huge embarrassing situation for the student.
The parents are called in, the head of the school gets involved, the counselors appear and often, there's a transfer to another school--by the STUDENT, not the teacher. It's hugely disruptive and just not a good idea.
Sorry to burst the fantasy bubble but you are being immature and childish about this, okay? I guess it goes with the territory at age 13 but perhaps it's time you grow up enough to recognize inappropriate behaviour in school and to learn to control your impulses.
Keep it all inside and if you can't cope, tell a trusted adult. Parents are usually the best because they understand their children in a way that few other people can.
Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 October 2011):
 Poster: don't give in to those impulses. We all have had them and we know better than to follow them. It's OK to feel that way, but don't act on those feelings.
Johnny would be flattered, Eyes.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes  +, writes (4 October 2011):
oh dear god you are delusional about this if he has not responded he won't lose his job. i would like to point out i was many teachers favourites and many of them acted even more friendlier than that to me (singing to me stopping me in corridors for chats putting their arms round me to comfort me smiling at me ) and none of them fancied me and yours certainly doesnt like you that way
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I'm 59 and I want to kiss Johnny Depp, what should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I was 17 when I had my teacher crush. He was a first year teacher so he was about 22 or 23 but It was STILL OFF LIMITS...
and sweetie no matter what you think or want... TEACHERS ARE OFF LIMITS TO YOU.
ask mom.
ask dad.
TEACHERS ARE A NO-GO for kissing or hugging or anything other than LEARNING SCHOOLWORK.
WHEN you are 18 and GRADUATE from high school THEN you can go kiss him. IF it's TRUE LOVE he will wait for you. (said because if I tell you the truth you won't want to hear it...)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut by reporting me he will possibly lose his job aswell!!?? and plus he likes me i am one of the non chavy people ion my class :) and he aways smilies at me and helps me. HE EVN TOUCHED MY HAND!!!!! he ives me one of thsose smiles
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (3 October 2011):
youd be reported he'd be suspended youd be the laughing stock of the school for it all the other teachers will be acting awkward around you you wouldnt be allowed in any of his classes and they may ask you to move schools . theres no good that could come out of it if you truly liked this guy you would not be risking his job
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (3 October 2011):
youd be reported he'd be suspended youd be the laughing stock of the school for it all the other teachers will be acting awkward around you you wouldnt be allowed in any of his classes and they may ask you to move schools . theres no good that could come out of it if you truly liked this guy you would not be risking his job
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe doesn't have a girlfriend or a wife. What do you think would happen if i did kiss him?????
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (2 October 2011):
its still illegal. teachers are NOT even supposed to have any contact with you at all and he sees you as a little kid. he doesnt see you as an equal or someone he's attracted to in all probability he probably has a girlfriend or wifei repeat my earlier statement dont tell her. it'll get around the school like wildfire if you want to get all your feelings out just write them down in a diary or letter and burn it
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reader, Molly9945 +, writes (1 October 2011):
Kissing the teacher can get him into serious trouble. Don't even think about it or tell your friend. Just ignore your feelings. Date kids your own age.
I understand teacher crushes, which is fine to have, but that's all they are, crushes. Don't flirt with him, try to kiss him, or anything, because no matter what he will get in trouble. Plus I doubt he likes you back in any way.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (1 October 2011):
before i go any further - DO NOT DO ANYTHING !!
i would also not tell your friend about it i know what 13 year old are like and they will tell people and it'd just make it extremely awkward for you and the teacher has to report it if he finds out etc
secondly i know how difficult it is we've all been through it im 16 now and im mature for my age and i still struggled with it but i can tell you you will grow up so much in the next few years and you'll forget about him and you'll look back and think why the hell did i ever like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut i don't mean a serious relationship or even on at all just a meer kiss. and what should i do about my friend?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): There are many variations to questions we get here about being in love with your teacher. The advice is generally the same: you're too young and it's illegal for a teacher to have a relationship with a student -- not to mention for any adult to have a relationship with a child.
This is puppy love -- a mere crush on an authority figure. It happens a lot to school girls and boys alike. Enjoy being 13 and spend time with friends who are your age.
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