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writes:Recently I was standing in the local store with my boyfriend standing behind me,waiting to pay for our purchases separately!However the female assistant blushed when she realised she was going to see me through the checkout.She kept her composure well and tried to be friendly in a casual manner as we have spoken casually before!Then more blushes as the bf went to pay his goods with her.I felt there was a bit more going on here but stayed back and left the store before their goodbys and thankyous!Now what is this about?I thought she looked as though she had a bf of her own!I didnt expect the blushing but bf has a habit of getting anyone i even half say hello to of the female into a proper state..lurking to meet him, blushing, knocking on my door all upset etc.He is youthfully goodlooking and a bit more than a bf, we live together, but how he loves a bit of female attention!Do I assume she has the hots for him and is currently unattached or do you think there is more to it?It wasnt exactly like it was the first checkout encounter she had with him and he may have given her the impression he was interested although she also knew that day that I was his partner.I am friendly at the checkout but not in a way that results in uncomfortable blushing from myself or anyone else.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 August 2016):
 I guess you are right about Justin Bieber :) Thank God for small blessings : at least your boyfriend does not get women's panties thrown at him .
If I got it right, you exclude completely the possibility that your bf may have done or said something to get all this attention and provoke all these reactions- fine, I believe it. You know him best , of course. It remains , though, a bit of a mystery why all these grown women act so weird around him- it IS weird behaviour even when seeing a particularly attractive and charming man.
Anyway, we'll leave it a mystery but, in the meantime ... why are you getting so mad at them ?
They are more to be pitied than to be blamed- look how silly they are acting, and they are not even kids. A bit pathetic, isn't it ?
Plus, take it as a compliment to you. It IS a compliment.
Obviously your bf must be a good catch , a very charismatic type, to get all this admiration, and, guess who caught the catch ? You, not them. You must have got something going for you if he chose , and keeps chosing you, with no shortage if other options. They may blush , they may drool, they may lurk... but at the end of the day he comes home with you . You are the winner- be a gracious winner and don't begrudge them a few blushes here and there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2016): op here! she knew we were a couple as did the other blushing femme fatales!
I think theres a point where women arent bothered about prior commitments unless they are there right under their nose!
Plus lurking at shopping centres is for kids!
These ladies know where i live, hence they know where to drop things and where to inconspiculously wait.Some of them are my former friends!
I should imagine justin beiber just gets screamed at hysterically, panties thrown at him and fainting!
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (22 August 2016):
... Then now you know that when you see a check out counter girl blushing and acting weird, maybe you need to face backwards ..and catch your bf in the act of smiling to her, or winking, or checking out her boobs just from behind your back.
Just kidding, but.. up to a point. I mean, 5 different mature local women going all gaga over your bf , and sort of following him around ? That would happen if you dated Justin Bieber- and the girls would be hormonal teens, not hormonal ladies. I absolutely agree with Ruby Birtle , mature women do not act like that just because they see some attractive or hot guy. Only if they have been encouraged, or worse, if there's a bit of background.
For instance, why should they go all flustered and red- faced just because he looks good ?! What's there to blush ? I see attractive men all the time, I do happen to think " uhm, yummy. Would not terribly mind a piece of that " and move on. I don't blush, and none of my friend does. WE do not trip in our own feet, we do not act ashamed or embarassed- what for ? noticing and appreciating beauty is normal, it's natural, it's our right- it's nothing to feel awkward about. Look but don't touch. Maybe you cannot enter in the restaurant but you can always look at the menu. This type of stuff.
I WOULD maybe blush and feel like a fool, and also act like a fool, in slightly different circumstances. Like, If I were a supermarket cashier who has been flirting and bantering and getting lots of compliments and encouragement from some "single " guy , then I realize that he is right there under my nose... shoppimg with his wife , or official partner.
That could be a tad awkward, a tad unnerving for a shy person, and could trigger the blushes you mention...
And lurking... what do you mean by that ? how do they lurk ? Why is it excluded that they are in the same place for their own legitimate reasons ( a cinema, a bar, a shop ..)? If you mean they lurk around your house , and then knock at your door... how would have they gotten your address ? Why not from him ?, it sounds like the simplest explanation ....
In conclusion, if you are 100% sure that all the episodes are not just casual coincidences, and that they can't be acting agitated / dropping stuff just because preoccupied by their own personal stuff... OTH then you can also resonably think that your bf must have got something to do with this general weird behaviour.
Stony indifference, evident obliviousness do NOT get you nervous groupies - unless he really is Mick Jagger or someone like that . A regular guy , no matter how soulful, that only minds his own business, and does not make doe eyes at anybody- does not get ants-in-the-pants reactions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2016): op again to boo22!
I focus on the female because i am in a queue facing forwards!
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reader, boo22 +, writes (21 August 2016):
 I agree with Rubybrtle He sounds like a flirt when you're not around but so what?If he's cute then women will like him.This is the price of being with a good looking guy with good attitude.You focus on the girl and her thoughts and feelings but this isn't the point in my view.It's him you should be on here asking about but you're not.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (21 August 2016):
My guess is that, behind your back, your boyfriend is a massive flirt, if it's not just this check-out woman who goes a bit ga-ga when she sees him. Mature adult women generally don't behave like this unless they've been given encouragement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2016): My initial thought was that the blushing is an indication of a harmless crush (harmless in that she wasn't going to act on it). Also, she was embarrassed that you knew. I agree that he likes the attention and is maybe flirty by nature.But... The door confused me. Now that I understand they're coming to your house THAT'S an issue for several reasons. 1) its creepy! If all your genders were all reversed, you would be the man pissed off some other men were dropping by w gifts2) HOW do they know your address? Why would he tell them?3) while he may like the attention, friendly chatting is one thing but he needs to man up and day he's taken/turn them away at the doorYeah, that's not right
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2016): hi miss frank op just clarifying that at least 5 females locally gone OTT over him and yes,even lurking nearby ,dropping stuff like bracelets etc and these are grown women ,not 15yrolds.
Its not flattering !
At best its embarrassing! At worst its a clear indication of overhormoned females!
Yes he does have very soulful eyes etc but i have not met one female who hasnt gone pink over him, and its not my imagination.
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reader, miss frank +, writes (21 August 2016):
I find this an intriguing post. On the surface a check out girl has blushed as your nice looking boyfriend has talked to her. For a lot of people this would be flattering to the boyfriend and the partner, and nothing more of note than that.
However, it has the feel in your post of not being a once off and somehow having more meaning to you. The comments about getting Girls 'Lurking' and even knocking on your door- what is that about? Are you implying he is acting in ways unacceptable in a relationship and this checkout girl thing is setting off you suspicions? More information is required around why you have attached so much meaning to this fairly insignificant incident, if it were a one off
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