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writes:I'm just wondering what compels an ex-boyfriend to ask an immediate family member "how you are" almost 16 years after you broke up? I am led to believe that said ex asked specifically about me, and his current partner was present when he asked.Prior to this occurring, he'd avoided attending mutual friends get togethers because I was invited. Back in 2000, I initiated the break-up and it turned nasty and vindictive. He briefly saw my sister in 2009 by chance and gave her a business card with his details on it, but he didn't ask about me.Any thoughts?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 August 2016):
 If I had to guess I would imagine he was just being polite and asked how you where, try not to read to much in to it. It was more than likely just to make conversation.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 August 2016):
 I have many ex boyfriends, most of whom I care not a jot about. However, if I bumped into friends or family of theirs, I would probably, out of politeness, ask how they were. Wouldn't "mean" anything. Just polite conversation because that is the only common ground I would share with them. I am sure I would not care a jot about what they were up to really.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (28 August 2016):
 Why do you care after all this time? Keep moving on with your life unless you still have unresolved feelings for him
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (27 August 2016):
 16 years since, sounds a common response. Wouldn't think anything much of it
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 August 2016):
 Probably because that's how he knows the family member ? I really wouldn't read too much into it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 August 2016):
 Curiosity? Being polite? Using you as a "subject" to initiate polite conversation?
A friend of mine recently told me she had run into my last "ex" and that he had asked about me. Now I didn't ask about him, because honestly? I don't give two figs about him. And.... my friend was having WAY to much fun relaying details of the "meeting" with him.
I wouldn't make any BIG presumptions, it's not a big deal.
But really, he is an ex... why speculate? Why care?
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