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female
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30-35,
*inybubble
writes:There is this guy that I've liked for two years now. The problem is, he doesn't know my name at all. I am a third year medical student while he is a doctor training to be a surgeon. I see him all the time; I pass by him in the hospital corridors, school corridors and even in the nearby Starbucks. I always see him alone and it says in his Facebook that he is single. We've had a few encounters already while he was assisting senior surgeons who are also our lecturers for surgery class in school. I think he knows me by face and he already spoke to me once. I really want to ask him out but I don't know if it's the right thing to do.He is so amazing. He graduated with honors in medical school while I have already failed a few subjects and barely passing so I also feel that he is out of my league. I want to have control over my love life and I never had a boyfriend. I don't get approached by guys ever. The last time I liked somebody, I got rejected hard and it took me four years to get over that guy. So I am really scared to get rejected again. Anyway, since I am on my third year, I will be an intern in the hospital the next semester and I am 100% sure that I will get to work with him. So I am wondering, should I wait until I become an intern or do I ask him now? Actually, I'm not even sure if I should ask him out in the first place. Though, I really want to. I feel like having an intense crush on someone for two years is already a long time and I want to start actually doing something than just checking him out in Starbucks. Do you think it will creep him out if I suddenly approach him in that cafe where I see him like almost everyday, and ask him out? I'm not even sure if he will recognize me. I don't know what to do. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2016): How about saying hello first and see where that goes .. or can you direct me too where ever .. He may be in a relationship for all told
I'm a mentail health charge nurse and not everyone students know my business personal I mean so find out if you can before making a fool of yourself ..
Chin up ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2016): I would say start small. If he knows you by face, you can ask to join his table at Starbucks or the cafeteria. If you chat some and he's receptive, then sure, ask him to add you on Facebook. Since you've both been busy learning, you don't really have time for much anyway. Especially if you're struggling in some classes. Does he know of good tutors? Anything on Facebook would be a start, but see if he comments/messages back as often as you do. Please, start small.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 August 2016):
 I think you need to take your time with this, having a crush on someone and it taking four years to get over sounds intense, and then to have a crush on this guy for two years also sounds very intense. You don't even know this guy, only that he is educated and is good looking. You need to get to know someone before asking them out in my opinion. I think you have built this up to much in your head already. You need to play it cool and get to know the guy. Introduce yourself be friendly, take your time and maybe flirt a little and see how that goes first. I think if you ask him out straight away you may scare him a little. Play it cool.
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