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writes:I have had the worst luck dating, so I have been meeting guys online. Of all the guys I have messaged, only one turned into a promising lead. The issue is that he lives pretty far away, but after texting/video chatting, I see some promise in this guy (same morals, lifestyles etc), we have been messaging for a couple weeks and recently started texting/video chatting. We spend hours video chatting and he mentions cooking for me. Also when I talk about general life stuff he agrees and says I seem to be the female version of him. I definitely want to meet in person and he does as well (I will be very safe of course) and hopefully we can see each other in the next month or so. I know that he is real, as I have seen his face on camera. Is this promising? I met a guy on the same site and we actually dated in person for a month before he moved. He left me in the dark after showing a ton of interest due to confused feelings about an ex. Opinions?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 August 2016):
 Sweetie I understand that after last time there is some doubt in your mind, but you cannot let that get in the way. This is a new guy and therefore a new experience. You are right taking your time getting to know him, and meeting in a public place, but other than that none of us one here can tell you if it is promising or not. You just need to meet each other and see if there is a spark there. Get to know each other face to face and relax and enjoy yourself. I am sorry that you got caught up with a guy who was not over his ex, but that won't happen all the time. Best of luck, hope it goes well for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2016): I don't agree with long distance. Especially if it starts out that way. It's completely jumping the gun but what if it does work out? R u going to relocate? Is he? Just food for thought.
Other than the distance I feel u can't know someone truly until u are around them in person and get to sense the real chemistry. So if u meet, you'll know how u feel and what they're really like. I met a couple of guys online dating. A few of them turned to nothing straight away. A few of them turned to out to be so opposite to how he'd been online.
Saying that, I met my current bf online. Didn't chat for long before meeting so no idea what he was like before we met. We've been together three and a half years and r buying a house together next year. So, it does happen. Saying that, online dating is so complicated and hard with a massive mixture of people and motive. It's worth trying obviously but eventhough I've met the love of my life from internet dating, I still wouldn't recommend it.
Just be safe as u said. Keep ur expectations real and try to have strong skin if it doesn't work out. The most surprising things can sometimes be promising and the most promising things can sometimes be a let down.
All the best x
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