A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I decided to cancel a 2nd date with a guy because i dont think hes worth giving a 2nd date . The reasons being he lies and he lies a lot , He told me he was 'fishing' this weekend so couldnt do the 2nd date this isnt the first lie hes told me hes told me loads and thinks he gets away with them. Some lies he stoops low all these random family members have to go hospital coz of a 'broken' arm or sprained ankle and he has to drive them all yet the photos and vids on facebook show theres nothing wrong with these family members. Hes very much a man child . I would have thought if someone cancelled a date that the other person would talk and ask why its being cancelled and if they really like that person they would ' chase' them because of interest . I know hes not that interested and personally think hes keeping me as a back up option. I know im better off without him im not a person to be dragged down by someone . One minute hes interested wanting to plan holidays and make commitment ( i tell him slow down ) next minute hes silent . Why are certain men like this ?
View related questions:
facebook Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 August 2016):
 It sounds to me like this guy might be a compulsive liar. He probably needs help more than anything else. He sounds like people I have met in the past. Put it down to experience, drop all contact and move on.
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 August 2016):
 Isn't that intuitive ?... Well, it must be , I see that you answered yourself in your last sentences :
Because they are not much interested in the woman they are cancelling their date with, yet they do not want to write her off completely since she might always make a good plan B, or C, or D, in lack of better options.
But of course if they told the woman " I am cancelling our date because I am giving a try to another chick which I find hotter than you " or " because I thought that going out to go hog-drunk with my friends will be more fun than spending time with you ", the woman 99% of times would reply : " Ok, buster, byebye, have a good life ".
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 August 2016):
 Why are certain people like this?
Because they SIMPLY don't care. They do what THEY want to do and screw everyone else.
BLOCK the loser and let it go. Don't waste time or energy wondering WHY he is doing it, it's irrelevant.. HE is irrelevant.
Now you know he is a time waster and YOU can do better, so ... DO BETTER next time you "pick" a guy or agree to go on a date.
...............................
A
female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 August 2016):
 It's actually quite rude to ask someone why they can't make an engagement, whether they're declining a new one or cancelling/postponing an existing one. The reason may be perfectly innocent, but personal and possibly a little embarrassing. It's considered very poor form to put others in an uncomfortable position. It makes you look tacky and desperate.
Folks will volunteer what they want you to know. If someone cancels a date, you accept their reason as is, even if you suspect another motive. That person will either show they're still interested by contacting you again to set up another date or they'll ghost you.
In your case he was caught in several lies, with the proof on Facebook (assuming those pictures where taken before all the broken bones). Questioning him would still be tacky in this case. The classy thing to do would be to move on, which you've done.
As for why men like him do this? Why does anyone do the things they do? You'll just have to accept that there are dumb, low class people out there.
...............................
|
