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writes:Why am I scared to touch this guy? I feel like I'm not reciprocating enough. I do touch his his face while we kiss.I really like him alot. I do notice I'm not in touch with my feelings or even reality now. But I'm also not even sure of that, but maybe that is why I'm scared.. Also I love him touching me! I love it and he can touch me anywhere and I love it and feel all comfortable. He holds me,carasses me cuddles me.we also have had beautiful sex that I loved as well and want more. I feel I'm holding back tho and idk what is wrong with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (17 November 2016):
 I really think you need to seek therapy to help you move forward positively, with or without this guy. You can't really have a healthy relationship when you need to heal yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2016): If you like the guy so much, just ask him. He'll love that you're opening up to him. Ask whether he feels like you've been holding back. Explain to him that you felt like you had and ask him what he wants. Transparency is everything.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2016):
 Have you had issues in the past about people entering your personal space? Or you entering there's?
If you really like him then tell him what your issues are. Maybe slowly he can help you. It could be that you are nervous because you are not sure where to touch or how to do things. That is okay. We all need to learn from somewhere, so just be honest with him. It is great you are comfortable with him touching you, but I think you need to let your guard down a bit. Are you scared he is going to judge you? If you are holding back maybe it means you are not ready to be in a relationship yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2016): Hi,thankyou for answering... Well I'm never sure what do,what to say,how I feel, what I mean about Reality is that idk if what is happening is Real. I catch myself telling my self any of these. Is this real?, It is really real,this isn't happening can't be real,It is hard to talk about it. I've been through alot of trauma with my family and past relationship.. I have to ask people how I feel because idk what I feel or how I'm supposed feel. My ex kinda warped my brain I guess. And I lived in denial,it was very bad.. Not all the time but the bad moments slowly erased all good and soon all I had was bad memories because the good memories wasn't real . The song " I'm going under" explains my past situation. Now if I'm scared of it happening again " subconsciously" Wouldn't I not even let him touch me.. see now I know nothing. Wouldn't that mean that I'm letting him know I've got possible really like you feelings toward him if I touched him and comforted him? He comforts me. This is baffling me because how is that I'd be totally okay for him falling for me if I don't feel the same. (And vice versa that one too please) Also he is depressed Right now.. " he came out and said" it's not my falt... But basically he is upset about something. I'm the original question asked.. hmm ..
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (16 November 2016):
I think therapy would be a good outlet to figure out your feelings - not for this guy; that will gradually get better, but for yourself.It's possible that you're nervous about opening up because you're not (or don't seem to be) in an actual relationship with him, so you love his attention, but are subconsciously apprehensive about giving yours.When you say you're "not in touch with reality", what do you mean?
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