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writes:On Halloween I had a falling out with a couple friends when I got kicked out of a frat party for not paying to get in and they ignored me for the rest of the night. For a couple days after that I was angry at them and just completely ignored their texts before reconciling with one of them once I felt less angry. The only reason I didn't reconcile with the other friend was because she blocked my number and all forms of social media. We haven't spoken since.Starting on Friday, I started getting texts from unknown numbers that ranged from innocent greetings to dirty pick-up lines and even a few pictures. At first I assumed that the "friend" I didn't reconcile with was just giving my number to guys so she didn't have to reject them which is not okay but somewhat understandable. Well turns out that she put my number right on her tinder profile with the caption "Sext me ;)" so now every single guy who sees her profile is texting me thinking I'm her. According to a mutual friend, she's going to take my number down "Once I apologize" which first off I can't do if I wanted to since she blocked me on all forms of communication, and second off I don't even know what I'm apologizing for. I'm the one who got kicked out and left behind. I'm the one who had to walk home alone. I'm the one who got blocked on her social media. At first I thought it was at least a bit funny and clever when i thought she was using me to do her dirty work, but after 4 days of this nonsense I'm sick and tired and even more angry that she would be so petty as to give out my number to complete strangers as a way to get back at me for something I don't even know I did. She's obviously not going to listen to reason and short of changing my number I don't know how to get these messages to stop.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (18 November 2016):
I read your post. Were you broke when you got kick out of the party? The people who ignore were all acting very immature. It isn't your fault you can't pay a to get in But your other friend who block you and gave your number to a bunch people by texting seXT with me. She is even more immature big time. I will get a new phone and change the number also. Make new friends with new people instead of hanging out with the ones who are very immature.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (17 November 2016):
Change your number...and only real friends get it this time.
When you change that number...do the same with your so called friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2016): Sounds like the problem runs deeper than just trying to get in a party free. If you didn't realize until last minute there was a cover charge, you could have gone home or asked some friend to front you the $. I guess you know they were embarrassed to be associated with you or were almost kicked out. I've been kicked out of bars bc of friend's behavior. Anyway, ignoring you for the night was was sufficient punishment.Your ex friend was OTT so I think it runs deeper. Have you made yourself "at home" too much at dorms/apartments? Invited yourself along or just assumed they'd cover you? I used to do similar w a friend who I thought flirted too much. She'd throw herself and guys all night, give a fake name or # and try to disappear. So I got sick of it and gave out her #, real name, workplace. It took her awhile to learn her lesson but she did.Maybe you should change your #, apologize, and stop inviting yourself where you're not wanted.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2016):
 She needs to grow up, it is none off her business if you got kicked out for not paying. Although I would suggest just paying in future if there is a charge. Saves any hassle. Be an honest person.
But as for this girl, she is not a friend. She is not a nice person and she has a lot of growing up to do. I would remove her from my life, change my number and move on.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (16 November 2016):
 I know it might be a pain but the first thing I'd do is change my number, block her on any social media sites and move on. She's immature, sounds a little malicious and definitely isn't someone that I'd consider a friend.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 November 2016):
 Change your number.
And if you FEEL like you REALLY do owe her an apology for the party debacle - don't you know where she lives? If you do send her a postcard with an apology.
However, I would NOT talk to her anymore. From where I stand SHE owes you a far bigger apology for what she is doing.
And contact Tindr and see if they can remove the number.
And learn from this, OP - don't be a cheapskate. If you have to pay to get in.. you pay.
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reader, N91  +, writes (16 November 2016):
 Why would you want to be her friend anymore? She sounds like a baby.
Change your number and move on with your life without her in it.
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