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writes:There is a woman who exercises at my gym every day at the same time. I want to meet her. What should I say? How do I approach her? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2016):
 Walk past her smile say hello and ask her about her work out regime. Then ask her would she like to go for a juice or a coffee after her session.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2016): I've been a regular at the gym for over 20 years now. My current boyfriend is a former bodybuilder and we both have discussed how we have never considered dating anyone we met at the gym, because we are regulars.
Since the vast majority of "dating" relationships fail, it would be really awkward to continue seeing your previous date/partner regularly at the gym, after breaking up.
From my perspective and from friends' experiences too, its just not worth trying to date anyone from a place you regularly attend (ie work and gym)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2016): Well, first of all do not stare at her excessively. Lol. She will think you are just another gym meathead! Women always expect to be hit on by suave, cocky guys in the gym. And trust me, it is not necessarily flattering to them.It is all in the technique.Subtle is best.I suggest you are in the same area as her. Do you have equipment you like to use that is nearby where she works out? Do you do the same types of things? Weights or cardio equipment? You need to situate yourself close by to her. That is first. But try not to do it all at once. Ease your way in. Does she do any types of group fitness classes you can join as well? I think you have common ground obviously. You are both fitness oriented so that is a huge plus. So, what do you talk about with her? Obviously your opening line is going to be about fitness! And it is going to be complimentary to her. You can ask her how to use a certain piece of equipment or pretend you don't know how many reps to do. Or look at what she is doing and ask her questions about something she is doing at the gym. Live in the moment. It will come to you on that particular day. But it being about fitness does not make you look too obvious. Then once you ask her something and she answers, you can start to build a rapport. So you talk to her once. Then the next time you see her, you can say hello and talk some more. And over time a relationship will build. Take it slow. And follow her lead. If she is not interested in more than a gym friendship, then that is okay too. If you can handle it. But I do think you should approach her. There is nothing wrong with having friends at the gym and conversing while you are there, even if it stays at just that. Hope this helps. I know when guys approached me at the gym, they would compliment my "Linda Hamilton" arms and ask what I did to get my arms in that kind of shape. Or they would ask how to use the piece of equipment I would use all the time. Or they would make a funny comment while on the equipment or a joke. Stuff like that. At some point once you have spoken to her a few times and have determined her interest level, you can say hey I'm going for a coffee, would you like to join me? Or if there is a café at the gym, even better.Good luck! :-)
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