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writes: So there is this man at my church and he is a single dad. We've started to casually talk here and there. Two weeks ago he was saying to me how he would love to have more kids. Then last week he asks he personally if I ever wanted kids. This might just be him trying to simply have a conversation with me, but if he's talking about kids and asking me if I want kids , is he interested in me? I will say I am infatuated with him and I love his child. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (18 November 2016):
Hold on sweetie, you just met the guy at your church. I agree with what wise owl said. You shouldn't be a full time parent yet,if you are under 21 years old. Dating is fine but what he ask it going too fast. You two barely even know each other. Go out with each other first and have nice conversations with one another also. Then a few years, after college and you have a career also. Then I say it is a possibility to have kids with this man. But don't jump ahead of time at all.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (17 November 2016):
He could just be making conversation? It would be strange for him if he was interested to be talking about kids instead off asking you out.
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reader, Slippers +, writes (17 November 2016):
I love wise owl post and father advice .. so guys do mention children to see if you are happy with the thought as some girls just don't want any .. so he maybe hinting to see if you would .. For me depending on his age I would say your young and should be thinking of other things not that I'm saying having a baby and being a mother isn't great as it is .. but I would advise concentrating on you for a while .. enjoy your age and being free from the responsibility that caring for a baby brings .. It brings it's joys no doubt I wouldn't swap it for the world but it also a 24/7 job that never goes ..you have to be prepared for all that ..
What age is lil boy ..what age is his daddy may I ask ?
If your 21 I would say date a while make sure this is what you want keep up with your studies .. If your 18 .. then I would be sayin I think a coffee and friendship is best for a long while ..
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reader, Slippers +, writes (17 November 2016):
I love wise owl post and father advice .. so guys do mention children to see if you are happy with the thought as some girls just don't want any .. so he maybe hinting to see if you would .. For me depending on his age I would say your young and should be thinking of other things not that I'm saying having a baby and being a mother isn't great as it is ..
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (17 November 2016):
I hate to give advice based on generalizations. But, there is so little here to go on.
In general if a guy is interested in dating he will arrange a date.
In general if a guy is interested romantically he will talk about you, not his kids.
In general guys use kids as a topic to deflect romantic advances.
In general women find talk about kids romantic.
Of course in your specific case all of this could mean nothing.
In General listen to WiseOwlE 's advice, I agree with it.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 November 2016):
I think that you need to step back; having a crush is okay, but dating a single parent is serious and needs to be thought through properly. You're very young for a potential step-parent role in the near future.How old is he? Where is the child's mother? How much custody does he have?What he asked is strange, as you shouldn't really be thinking about kids yet, let alone him asking if you want them. However, he does seem to like you, so take it slow and ask if he'd like to go out for coffee. Keep dates in public and try not to let your feelings run away with you - keep future talk to a minimum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2016): I think it would be safe to say he is showing some interest; but it should be in dating you. Asking about having kids is putting the cart way before the horse. However; it may have been his awkward way of asking if you'd date a single dad.
You are a little too young to be thinking much about motherhood. If you are under 21, you are still a student; or attending your freshman or sophomore year of college. That should be a priority in your life.
Getting a college education and establishing your financial independence is essential in the 21st century. Dating is absolutely fine, but he shouldn't hinder your growth and potential as a woman by saddling you with kids. That's a pretty strange pickup line! It is however a good idea to be sure a lady doesn't mind dating a gentlemen who has a kid.
It must be taken into consideration that the child will be his top priority, and that is already well-established in his life. Remember that.
You might want to let him know that having children is something you'd consider far into the future; but you'd be delighted in having a coffee date or dinner.
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