A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi every one, I need help to tell him I'm nit interested. I had a one night stand about 5 months ago, and have been texting him since. But he has tried sexting me for a few weeks now, I keep trying to change the subject, but he's not getting the point, how can I tell him I'm not interested without hurting him. I don't want a relationship and certainly not with him, he is coming across as a creap now.Any help would be appreciated.
View related questions:
one night stand, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 January 2017):
 I can't help but feel that you have led him on here, where you clear with him that it was a one night stand and didn't mean anything to you? Look you have to be honest with him because it sounds like he is interested in you, really you cannot call him a creep for sexting you after actually having sex with him. Just be honest tell him the conversations make you uncomfortable and you wish him all the best in life but you are going to delete and block him and that is it.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2017): Why did you gave sec with him if you're not interested. Why are you texting if you're not interested. You should tell him straight as at the moment you're sending mixed signals and that isn't fair on him.
...............................
A
female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (1 January 2017):
 Why are you so concerned about his feelings?
People like this rely on people like you being too polite. No more hints. Time to be blunt.
Then just block and delete. You could even just block and delete without saying anything. Is this someone you know in real life?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2016): Just block his number. It is that simple.
You don't owe him an explanation.
Trust me, he will move on to somebody else who will participate in his games. Don't you worry. He will neither be lonely nor hurt.
It's the end of the year. Block him now and begin fresh tomorrow.
...............................
A
female
reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (31 December 2016):
 "Hey, I notice you keep starting sexting. I've been changing the subject hoping that you'd get the point, which is this: I'm not interested in sexting with you. Sorry to be blunt but my hints obviously weren't getting the message across."
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2016): If you're concerned about his feelings (although he couldn't care less about yours) just reply less and less and when you do make it something about the weather or something like that. Regardless of what he's texted you. So he'll be dumbfounded, a bit confused and I would imagine, soon disinterested.Doubt he'll be in touch much after a while. If he persists, the yes, out with the big guns and just ignore or ghost or tell him you don't like the sexual innuendo in his texts and that you'd rather not hear it anymore. You know what? I bet you he'd ghost you in a second without thinking twice about it if he wanted to. He's already shown that he doesn't take a hint, so my guess would be that he doesn't care about YOU, just that he's hoping to get off on sexting. So try not to care about his feelings.
...............................
A
female
reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (31 December 2016):
 Be direct. Tell him exactly how you feel. You don't need to be mean to him. You just need to be truthful, clear and direct. The truth may disappoint him, but it's not your responsibility to coddle him, and you should not feel guilty about being assertive.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2016): Thank you so much for you replies, I don't want to hurt him, because I am a nice person,but as you say, I owe him nothing. I just want him to understand that I am not interested. I will try both of your responces and see what happens. I will right a comment to advise what happens.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 December 2016):
 Just tell him that you are going to block his number because you don't wish to continue these conversations and you find his persistence creepy. block his number. YOU do not owe him politeness or to sext back. Or if you don't want to TELL him he is creepy - simply block. HE is old enough to take the hint that you aren't interested in sexual conversations and JUST because you two had a one night stand 5 months ago doesn't mean you OWE him sexual release, sexting or ANYTHING else.
And it's not like he is a "potential" friend either. So just simply block his number and delete it.
If he gets upset (which I highly doubt) that is on him. My guess is he will find someone else to creep on.
...............................
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 December 2016):
 Creeps deserve to be hurt! Why are you concerned over his feelings? Do you know him? Simply tell the creep to F off and bother someone else or you'll report him to the police.
...............................
|
