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writes:Morning dear friends. My case is like this: I was in a relationship with my girlfriend(24 years old) for a year. we rarely met; at least once in three months. She visited me on the 8th of October 2015. We played the indoor game; but with protection. Truly speaking I didn't see any bursting of the protector. From that day we never met again except for phone calls. Her September period had started on the 12th and for October it was due on the 10th but it didn't come out. She didn't tell me about it only to tell me on 15 January last year that she had missed her period since October. We argued a lot on why she kept quiet soon after realising that she has skipped her period. She then gave birth on 15 June 2016. The QN is: am I responsible for the baby or she cheated me?? thanks for your help; stay blessed.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 February 2017):
 I have to agree with the others, you are never going to know for sure unless you get a DNA test done, please do get it done, as this could be your child and if it is then you need to step up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2017): To be honest you would normally get pregnant around mid cycle. Although each woman is different.
You say she visited you on the 8th October, 2 days before her period was due. Something doesn't sound right to me.
Get a DNA test.
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (4 February 2017):
Have a DNA test done. That will answer your question!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2017): You can get a DNA test done for the price of one steak dinner.
If you allow the child to remain untested while there is the slightest possibility that it isn't yours then you are being idiotic. It's your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2017): The baby can be yours my cycle was the same as well, I too played the outside game around the same time and gave birth on the 16th of June.
If you seriously doubt the paternity then take the matter to science cause even if you do some up the courage to actually accept responsibility then it will always be at the back of your mind that she might have been with someone else.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 February 2017):
Considering the nature of your relationship, it's entirely possible she was with someone else.
It could be yours, too.
Since you have doubts, get tested. If it's your child be a good dad, if it's not she can look elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2017): In my opinion from what you have stated in your post, it is unlikely that you are the father. As honeypie says ask for DNA test to be 100% sure otherwise this subject will always play on your mind.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 February 2017):
 Do a DNA test that way you know for sure.
A woman CAN have what seems and looks like periods while pregnant, so that isn't a clear indication. Also, you didn't mention the size of the baby - but it seems like she only went 8 months - 32 weeks and IF that is true the baby would have been a tiny preemie possibly with a need for ICU as most babies lungs aren't "ready" until around 35 weeks.
So did you guys meet in September and have sex? If so, there is a possibility that it IS yours and the "period" she had was spotting (not uncommon in the first trimester).
But for YOU to know 100% you GET a DNA test done. It's worth the money and the peace of mind.
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