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writes:I am a 18 year old female in high school as a senior. I had this teacher for the first semester and over time just seemed to really like him for a lot of reasons mostly because of how intelligent he is. I am not a very sexual person and could count one hand how many people i've thought about in that way but with him my desire is on overload. There's been a few things that make me think hes interested as well such as giving me bonus points and full credit on a "current event" when all I did was write a little facebook post about politics. Just recently a friend and I were walking down the hallway when I went to glance back at him he had his head down facing his shoulder as if he was trying to look at me. My question here is, how would I actually get this to happen ? I no longer have him for class but could easily go talk to him. How do I seduce him? What do I talk about? How do I let him know I want this without appearing to try too hard ?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 February 2017):
 Control your hormones. Honestly this guy could get fired if he went near you, and I am hoping he has more sense than to be seduced by a student. From your post it does not really give clear signals that he likes you, I honestly do think it is just wishful thinking on your part. You need to be an adult now and learn to control your feelings until you are out off school.
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reader, N91  +, writes (5 February 2017):
 You could get this guy sacked.
Find a boyfriend your own age.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 February 2017):
 You don't. It's an infatuation that could get you both in trouble - he could lose his job.
Your hormones are all over the place, but that's why you have to be mature and ignore it.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (5 February 2017):
 It looks like you are in Canada and I have no idea what the law it there, but I will assume it is along similar lines to the UK.Regardless of whether you still take this teacher's classes, you are still at the school and your teacher could get into serious trouble if he showed any "unprofessional" interest in you. Do you want him to be thrown out of teaching to satisfy your curiosity?While I was at school, I had a friend who crushed heavily on her art teacher. She got it into her mind that he fancied her too. She based this on the fact that he gave her good marks for her work and would chat with her about topics not connected with school when she engineered situations in which to start a conversation. One day she made a pass at him and he was horrified! He took her into his office and told her, in no uncertain terms, that he had absolutely zero interest in her "in that way" and that he simply enjoyed conversations with a bright hard-working pupil. When she mentioned the high marks he always gave her, he told her it was because she always put a lot of effort into her work (she did this specifically to get his attention) and that he felt the marks reflected that. Needless to say, she was highly embarrassed and felt very awkward around this teacher for the rest of her time in the school. You are reaching an age when you will start having sexual feelings towards others. Your teacher is there as an example of what you are looking for in a partner. Intelligence obviously attracts you, which is something you need to look for in a future partner. Crushing is all part of growing up. When we are young we tend to crush on people who are "out of reach" because this is comfortable and safe. Enjoy your crush on your teacher but don't ruin the fantasy by trying to make it reality. It could be very embarrassing for both of you.Once you are out of school and no longer in daily contact with your teacher, you will soon forget about him and move on to someone with whom you can have a relationship. Or you will carry on thinking about him and get in contact - when it will be safer and something MAY develop. Now is not the right time though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2017): How do you do this? You don't. I want to start by saying that, while he may well really enjoy you as a person, and respect your intelligence, this does not mean that he has a crush on you. Giving you extra points for something that you don't think really deserved ...well let me tell you, I am a teacher, and that does happen... sometimes I give out extra points, but it is because I feel that the pupil deserves these points for something. What I am getting at is maybe you contribute great points to class discussions, but there is no mark on the report card for that, so he is just being generous in another area because he feels you are intelligent and involved in the class. That does NOT mean he has a crush on you. Maybe you are a favorite student, that STILL does not mean he has a crush on you! I have had a couple of favorite students, whom I will never forget, and whom I found to be incredibly interesting people. I would have even wanted to know them after graduation, and find out about their lives, interests, etc. However attraction still did not come into play. As for the hall incident, it is possible that he already suspects that YOU have a crush on him, so feels a little awkward. This too has happened to a few teacher friends of mine, who would blush when a student who was known to have a crush on them appeared in the class. Again I wouldn't jump to the conclusion it is attraction when it may be embarrassment. Now I come to the final point....even if this teacher DID have a crush on you, or if he didn't but you somehow were able to "seduce" him, through manipulation talk about:You are underage, and he is in a position of power over you. If a teacher has an affair with a student he/she will lose his/her job, even regardless of what age that student is (it is illegal in most countries). If you truly care for him you would not try to tempt him down that road, it is far too risky. And that is not even going in to the topic of it being morally wrong, because I'm sure you know those arguments already. Enjoy his intelligence. Enjoy your conversations. Even enjoy your feelings of having a crush. But please do not act on them, or I fear you will very much regret it. You can always keep in touch after graduation, and if it is truly meant to be when many years have passed...well then there would be nothing standing in either of your way. But I think this is just a common passing crush of a teen girl on an older, powerful man.
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