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writes:Hi everyone,I would like to get my ex girlfriend a gift that is received as a token of friendship, or more specifically, as a gesture that I'm ready to foster one. She has already explicitly stated interest in doing so.This comes after several months of giving each other room by not talking. Before that, we had a cathartic and somewhat unpleasant exchange, preceded by an emotional but friendly breakup after three years.FYI we've been living on opposite sides of the US for 9 months, since before the breakup. So, this gift would partially serve as a reintroduction as a friend.As a rule, I am thinking "what would be meaningful or funny based on what I know about her, but as a test, would not be weird giving to someone I've only ever been friends with?"My first thought was a coffee mug, but not sure what to write on it and it's a little too boring even for a friend.Do any ladies here have inspiration for me - from personal experience or just imagination?Thanks!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 February 2017):
 honestly I think you are best not buying her anything, if it was me I would feel it was crossing a line. Friendship is very difficult to maintain with an ex, because old feelings will return.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2017): Thanks to the first four who read my post and answered.
During our breakup she asked whether there was anything left of our relationship, to which I said I don't know.
Wanted to sort of give an official signal that we're good and get on with it. But now see that letting the interaction run its course is the real proof.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2017): Give yourself the gift of self-respect and move on with your life.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (5 February 2017):
The gift of leaving her alone. If she wanted to be your friend she would have contacted you. Leave her alone and move on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2017): A book, if she likes reading. A necklace. Candy. Bracelet.
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reader, N91  +, writes (5 February 2017):
 I didn't even know this was a thing.
I agree with the other posters that it's odd and really don't think its necessary. Just remain friendly if you're ready and don't carry romantic feelings for her anymore, no need for a gift.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (5 February 2017):
You don't have to give her a gift to prove something to her. You would only make her feel weird. It's not like you give gifts to your guy friends, so don't make things even weirder between the two of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2017): Might just be me, but if I had split up with someone and received a gift I would find it slightly odd. If you're already speaking every now and again and you're both open to being friends then you don't need to send a gift - just carry on as you are, chatting every now and again and being friendly. Sending a gift could confuse the situation, for me it would make me feel awkward. If you live really far away then maybe it'd be nicer to just send her a handwritten letter as a way of forging a friendship as opposed to sending a random gift that she might not want or need. You could chose a card with a nice image or funny phrase and write a letter. Sometimes the simplest things are the best.
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