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writes: I have been talking to this guy for over a month now and now has been going downhill from there. There will be days where he treats me like his girlfriend and call me "his beautiful" and tells me to stop worrying about him, then there are other days were he won't talk to me or continue a conversation. Mind you he has depression but I'm not using this as an excuse to validate his behaviour!I recently took space from him to get my head cleared and he was being affectionate before I left telling me to focus on myself. I started talking to him again and he remained being affectionate, once again calling me "his beautiful". But his words don't match his actions. We talk mostly on snapchat and usually he views my snapchat story but this time he didn't, he didn't try to talk to me and usually when I try and initiate conversations it's kind of hard to talk to him. He sometimes sends me random things throughout the day like pictures or videos but there not proper conversations specific for me. The only conversations we have are when were worrying about each other. We have a streak continuing and that's about the only time he really sends me something (just to continue the streak)I don't really initiate conversations because there will be times were he will reply or leave me on read. Sometimes I don't even think his interested in what I have to say so I don't start the conversations. I feel like it's me sometimes who is stringing the conversation along, but he will add unnecessary parts to the conversation like adding an emoji then afterwards I can't say anything because I don't know what to say!I don't know what to do, apart of me wants to let him go and another part just wants me to have him around. I've cried over this a few times because I hate giving up on people, I'm not a quitter. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 April 2017):
 Do you actually spend time with him and get to know him or is it all online? If it is all over the internet then you can't really dump a phone or a computer! Try and get with someone who will spend quality time with you, it sounds like he was just a penpal.
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reader, Pazima +, writes (3 April 2017):
Pazima is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the wonderful responses! Your right, his definitely not "mine" nor I'm "his", we really don't share a lot in common, nor he could give a rats ass to show interest in what I love and of course his playing mind games!
It hit me yesterday when I took "space" from him he kept sending me random shit everyday, now I'm back talking to him his gone quiet. Why? Because he knows he hasn't lost me, until now. I'm in the process of dumping his ass, I don't deserve this kind of treatment; hell my worst enemies don't treat me like this! It's shit and can't believe I let it get this far, it's been going on for a couple of weeks and now I finally see the truth.
Thank you again! :)
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reader, princessjasmine  +, writes (1 April 2017):
He's not right for you. He's playing games. Don't you deserve to be treated the same AT ALL TIMES? I don't tolerate any BS from men and you shouldn't either. You are young and you will realize your own strength and independence. You cannot be strung along. Men like that keep you on a leash by saying one nice thing and holding on to just the nice things and forgetting about all the negative things. Human beings do that to feel good about their relationships but it's still wrong. You need CONSISTENCY. Drop this guy, you'll feel empowered.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 April 2017):
 Eh, block him and move on.
He can't even have a semi-grown up conversation with you and it seems like you REALLY don't share much in common.
It's not being a QUITTER when you realize there just isn't anything here "worth" building on. It's accepting REALITY.
You will meet people who seem great in the beginning, who makes YOU feel great and then you slowly get to know then and realize WHO the F is this person really?
WORDS are cheap - I don't know how often I say that on here but it's true. It's easy to call you "his beautiful" or whatnot - but WORDS have LITTLE meaning unless they are followed up by action.
Let him go, move on. There are MILLIONS of other dudes out there why stick it out with a dud?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (1 April 2017):
 This guy isn't "yours" so you are not "giving up" on anyone. You haven't even met him in person yet you are already crying about him. What sort of a relationship is that? You don't even have any proof he is who he says he is.
Do yourself a favour and walk away from this. Then get out and meet people face to face so you can make friends and, hopefully, find a guy who you connect with in real life.
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