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writes:Everyone always says it hard to keep in touch with friends from school. And they are right.. I left school with a group of 6-10 friends... and now I hardly talk to any of them.We all parted different ways to live our own lives in the direction we wanted to go. I found I was losing my friends and tried to keep in touch... but nothing worked. I seemed to lose them.I would say I had 3 close ones but even now. I feel them slowly moving on. I feel so alone. I find making new friends difficult and since they are usually "busy". I spend days and nights at home... I don't know how to get out of this low point in my life. I don't feel it's going anywhere... and I have nobody to share it with... Reply to this Question
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (29 July 2017):
IT'S 100% NORMALAs a rule of thumb, your college/school friends won't last too long after you graduate. Everybody grow up, and take different paths and ways, so you should move on and find yours.I'm 32, and I have only 1 o 2 meaningful friendships. I prefer having 1 very good friend, than a 100 "friendships". I would live a very lonely life if it wasn't for my girlfriend, who has been with me for all these years. She makes my life happier, and she is a very good companion.If you find your significant other, you can survive without any friendships for many years without a problem.If you have a hard time meeting people, JOIN CLUBS. Learn a new language, start swimming, do a sport, do art classes, or any kind of interesting activity, and I can bet you'll find eventually new friends.I wish you the best luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 April 2017):
 Yes it is normal, you are all growing up and everyone's lives are moving in different directions and making new friends. You need to do the same. Yes it can be hard meeting new people and making good friendships but you need to put yourself out their, be friendly and meet new people or else you are just going to be lonely and feel sorry for yourself.
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reader, kenny +, writes (31 March 2017):
 I think that's normal really- I lost contact with a lot of people I went to school with, although I am still in contact with a couple of friends its not that often we see each other.
I think that after you have finished school you tend to meet people in other area's like when you get a job and start going to work, joining a gym and start doing some classes, taking up some hobbies or evening classes.
I know it does not seem like it now, but once you start getting out there things will turn around for you and you will wonder where all these friends come from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2017): You need to try making some new friends. Sign up to some groups - sport art walking whatever you are into. I think many people go through this after leaving school or university or when all their friends are busy with their own relationships or having kids.
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