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writes:Hi, I have used this site before about a guy let's call him "Gibbs" who is 9 years older than me, I'm now nearly 19 (him being nearly 28). A couple of weeks ago I managed to corner him alone and I'm sure he was about to kiss me, unfortunately my Uncle walked in and ruined the moment. I am trying to get time alone with "Gibbs" but someone always ruins it, we are always flirting and when asked he admits he likes me do I make a move at the risk of seeming overly forward?
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reader, N91 +, writes (11 April 2017):
 What exactly is he worried about?
His shyness sounds very odd for someone of is age.
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reader, NurseAbby +, writes (11 April 2017):
NurseAbby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice, I asked Gibbs to come out with me tonight for a few drinks unfortunately he is "busy" tonight but he is taking me to a music concert tomorrow night. He's asked my Nan and Grandfather three weeks ago and after they found out he'd told me my Grandfather told my Nan that Gibbs is Smitten with me but is too worried about what people will say!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 April 2017):
 Sounds like you like Gibbs more than he likes you. He may not see you as a child any more but I don't think he wants to be with you. He is probably looking for a girl around his own age. Honestly a lot off people would give him a hard time for getting with someone so young. Its nice you go after what you want, but if he has not asked you out in three years he is not interested. He just uses excuses to keep you at arms length.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2017): Gibbs is a grown man who can decide what he wants, he's been nice and trying to stay out of the way. Someone always interrupt you because they know you like him and he don't want that akwardness happening Take the hint and leave Gibb alone!
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reader, N91 +, writes (3 April 2017):
Just for another males point of view if I'm speaking to someone that I like, I will make a move within the first month. 2 months maximum.
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reader, N91 +, writes (3 April 2017):
If he hasn't made a move in 3 years I really don't think he's interested. That was an extremely lame excuse which he provided.
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reader, NurseAbby +, writes (3 April 2017):
NurseAbby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have known Gibbs since I was 16 but my Grandfather trains him in martial arts and also knew his grandfather. He definitely likes me, and definitely doesn't see me as still a child, he is worried I will take things to fast because after knowing him for about 6 months I started getting flirty with him and I decided to show him my intent by "Interfering" with him. I just thought he was shy and needed a little nudge but due to one of his ex girlfriends putting him down he feels he failed in relationships, all of which she caused the problems in.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (3 April 2017):
Well ask him out on a date if you want some time with him - a drink or the movies or even a walk in the park now that the weather is improving. It's a much more mature approach than trying to corner him for stolen kisses at home.
But I'm inclined to agree with N91. At 28, unless he has a crippling case of shyness, Gibbs should be completely capable of asking YOU out if he's genuinely attracted to you. I think he enjoys flirting with you but doesn't want it to go any further than that.
How long have you known this guy? Is he a "family friend"? If he's someone you've known for longer than 5 years (before you were 14) - it's likely he will always see you as a "child" and he may be uncomfortable with anything more than flirtatious banter.
And, if someone is asked "Do you like soandso?" their answer will ALWAYS be something positive. Only a total asshole would answer a question like that with "Ugh! No Way!" So don't base all your hopes on that.
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reader, N91 +, writes (3 April 2017):
If he likes you why hasn't he made a move already?
Believe me, if a guy likes a girl enough he will make it known. If he's had various chances to make a move and hasn't then he's either not interested or more than likely a messer.
Why wouldn't he just be upfront if he knows you like him back?
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