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writes:The guy I used to date for a short period of time, kind of dumped me in a very rude way. Well I wanted to dump him too, but I tried to do it in a decent way. He got angry and simply dissapeared, not before making me feel like crap. I wished I could see him once again, I dont know why, I felt the need and yesterday he passed me by( but didnt see me) and I couldnt bring myselt to tell him even Hi. I cant forgive myself, I feel like: what if it was the only chance I had to talk to him and ask him why he did what he did or at least see how he is going to treat me. He was my first boyfriend, my first everything.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 May 2017):
 Honestly you have admitted yourself that this relationship was over, so it doesn't matter really who broke it off. If you have some stuff you want to get off your chest then write in all down in a letter for him, put all your emotions in to it, seal it and burn it and vow to let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2017): Let it go .. move on .. he isn't going to magically want back with you .. sorry sweetie but this is a hard bullet to take . But if you do see him walk on by chin up with pride .. if I were you; I wouldn't want to know why if he couldn't explain in the beginning . No good is going to come out of it . Honestly .. just let yourself focus on being happy .. get out socialise .. have fun .. look forward to summer coming .
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2017): You're upset he dumped you first...Sounds childish. Move on, it's apparent he has.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (29 April 2017):
 Your pride is hurt because he got there first. Sweetheart, nobody ever died from hurt pride. Don't take this so seriously. Try to see the funny side. Laugh about it with your friends. Say stuff like "I was going to dump him but he got there first! Blast! Need to act faster next time, ha ha!" Trust me, you WILL learn to laugh about it in time.
You can't go forward by looking back, so let him go and try to move on with your life. It is not important why he did what he did. His reasons will be more about who/where HE is, than about you anyway.
First romances are always the most difficult to get over, but you WILL get over it. Fill your time with going out with friends or hobbies so that you are not moping and missing him. In time you will meet someone else and understand why things did not work out with this guy.
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