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writes: Hi! My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and we're now graduating college, and for the next year, will be in different countries... we know it's going to be hard, but we think we can get through it. I'm honestly really stressed because I don't want to be without him for a year. We'll be able to visit each other a few times in the year, but since we'll be half a world away, it's very difficult to visit more times than that. Any advice would be appreciated with respect to how to make long-distance work, and how to get through the time without getting super sad. I'm going to miss him so much, and I just want to make it work.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 May 2017):
 It can work. You have had three years together so am sure you both know at this stage that the relationship is for keeps. Off course it is scary and you are worried. That is only natural. But a year will fly in. Just be prepared. Keep in contact over social media and skype. Plan when you will see each other and make the most off the time you spend together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2017): Long distance relationships can work especially when there is a set time that you'll be apart. My boyfriend worked abroad for 6 months and i didn't see him during that time but we spoke almost every day on Skype and sent each other messages and emails. It definitely sucks and i wouldn't choose to do it again but you'll get through it! The trick is to keep busy but also to make time for each other to talk.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (4 May 2017):
 Weekly video chats - twice weekly, if you can sometimes.
Text/Facebook/WhatsApp.
It's emotionally hard in that you can't physically be together, but you can still communicate frequently.
Be busy with hobbies/work/friends, but make time for each other too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2017): People go off to war or work abroad for a while and it can work .
Make a plan . Make time for one another a morning and night text is a good start of . Try and catch up and speak a lil daily but keep one day for a longer chat .. Skype . Text .. send cute stuff and pics .. be supportive understanding and the year will go quicker than you think .
Life is always a chance .. there no point in worrying about it as it hasn't happened . Though I would be very clear on what my boundaries were when he's away and what he would like of you as well regarding the opposite sex . Mutually having opposite sex friends for me in groups would be one thing . Hanging with them individually would be another . So I would be straight with how I see it .
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