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writes:HiI used to date a guy in school (we were young and it wasn't really serious.) He was taller than me back then and often teased me about being shorter than him. I didn't really mind because it was always meant jokingly. After 10th grade he went to a different school and we lost contact. I now found out through Facebook via osmosis that he will be going to the same college as me, and we will be taking almost the same courses. It's a bit awkward for me because I've had a growth spurt since and am now 6'3". We will probably be running into each other a lot. What do I do? Do I avoid him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 May 2017):
 Why would this be an issue? Are you still interested in him romantically? Are you insecure about your height? Or is it you are worried what he will think off how tall you are.
Don't avoid him, so you grew? Everyone does, and while yes you are tall for a girl a lot of girls would love to be taller. At least you can get away without wearing any heels. Plus he may have grew himself.
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 May 2017):
 Come on let's be serious. This isn't even an issue. Why would you need to avoid someone because you're taller than them?
What could you possibly be expecting him to do that you would need to stay clear of him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2017): Why avoid him? Let's put it it this way...how can you avoid him? You'll be in the same classes and attending the same college!
So you grew taller? If you're just not interested in dating him, all you have to do is say so. If you both still have feelings for each other; emotions tend to overcome any reservations you have. It's based on how you feel about each other and less about appearances.
You won't always find guys your height, or over, who care about you. So get the notion out of your head that you're going to choose appearance, other's opinions, and height; over the guy's character, and the compatibility between you.
By the way, if he feels uncomfortable about it, he may not want to date anyway. Don't get bothered if he still has a few jokes about it. You'll be looking down on him while he's making silly wisecracks. Let him deal with his ego-issues. I think he'll be more intimidated by what you might say as a comeback! If he really wants to stay friends, please don't avoid that option. You need all the friends you can find in your freshman year.
Get used to your statuesque physique and height; and don't let it distort your feelings about your appearance and connection with men.
It's exhausting how much people put themselves down over nature and genetics; like there is supposed to be some standard that everyone must adhere to or measure-up to, to be happy and thankful. I'm happy to help them, but most of it makes no sense.
Nothing seems to sway girls from wanting bad-boys; but it astonishes me that appearance/s seems to concern them more.
If he, or any other guy, is the right-guy for you; don't let your height bother you. If any guy isn't man enough to handle your height; it's only a matter of time before someone better comes along anyway!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 May 2017):
 I fail to see the problem. He's not your current boyfriend, he's not even a friend of yours. He's a guy you once knew.
Tons of people are shorter than you. Both people you know and people you don't know. Are you bothered by everyone you meet who is shorter than you? At some point in life you were shorter than EVERY person older than you. Does THAT bother you now as well?
No?
Then sorry, but I fail to see the problem. I think this is a made-up problem in your head because you're nervous about meeting your ex again, so your brain is making up all sorts of weird excuses to avoid him.
Sweetie, just avoid him if you don't wanna meet him again. Meeting an ex is awkward and weird, for all of us. But don't blame it on your hight.
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reader, This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal +, writes (1 May 2017):
 Say hello, be polite and don't worry about it. So you're tall, be tall. I mean what are your options, hide yourself from him? That's crazy. You don't need to do that. Live your life.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 May 2017):
 Why should you try and avoid him? It's not exactly your FAULT that you are now taller, that is down to genetics. And being a tall girl is NOT a bad thing at all.
He is your EX, try to NOT care what HE or ANYONE else thinks of your height.
My oldest daughter has been 5'9" since 6th grade and thus were taller that 90% of her classmates. It did occasionally bother her as some people are just rude and mean but she has accepted that she is who she is, looks how she looks and that anyone who HAS a problem with that... can go kick rocks.
If you see him, say hi. GET it over with. If he feels it's uncomfortable, HE will avoid you. And if he does... good riddance. IF he is a smart person he will not AVOID you, he will see perhaps a friend in you? Who runs around and measure their friends and exes?
Chin up and let it go.
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