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*ovethyself1
writes:Hello,I have been engaged for over 2 years to the man of my dreams. However,we dont get along all the time. He has a daughter and I have a son. Now, his babymother is in the picture and my son father is not. But he gets his daughter every weekend. I never knew how hard it would be to become a Step-Mother his daughter is just to grown for my taste. I have told him about it. Meanwhile, I am thinking it get better. But his babymother likes to step out of place alot. She ask my fiancee "can he have another baby with her. I am a very humble person I just remain calm but it bothers me sometime because before he met me he wasnt getting his child its just so much drama I am clearly not the drama type. I dont know what to say to him anymore. Then when she comes over he wants me to do her hair and treat her as mine. Its so difficult. Then he has alot of people on social media mainly females. He dont even know them. I have a social media but I have 50-60 friends and I know them all but he stay on Facebook. One day I walked in a heard a woman sounding like she was having sex and he was watching it. I didnt say anything however he dont like me watching porn. So I dont. Another Incident he came home so I wanted to surprise him with lingerie and a blow job but when I went down it smelled just like a condom. I just asked and he got defensive so I never said anything after that. Should I leave him?
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reader, Lovethyself1 +, writes (7 May 2017):
Lovethyself1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You! Sometimes you need another person opinion.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 May 2017):
 Yeah I think you need to leave. You need to see him and his daughter as a package and you simply don't therefore you guys shouldn't even be engaged. Off course he wants you to do his daughters hair, he wants you both to bond, but if that is not what you want then you are much better apart. If you feel he is unfaithful then their really is no hope for this relationship.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (29 April 2017):
You need to drop this drama filled mess. There is nothing but heartache on the horizon.
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reader, newgia667  +, writes (29 April 2017):
 LEAVE!!!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 April 2017):
 The man of your dreams? Really? How? I notice you don't mention anything GOOD about him in your post so I do wonder what you get out of this relationship.
In your shoes I would certainly not be comfortable with his ex asking him to father another child with her. I mean, WTF?
Sweetheart, you have a gut instinct for good reason: to warn you when something is not right. Your gut instinct is beating its head against a brick wall because, despite all the warning signs, you are still desperately hanging in there. Go ahead and marry him and see how much worse things can get.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 April 2017):
 Yeah you should go...it sounds like there is nothing good gonna happen here. Why not try with a newer dude that'll not have a baby mama joined at the hip. There are "normal folks out there too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2017): If your families don't blend and you're suspicious of his fidelity; why would you marry him?
You base decisions on facts and research. You don't get along with his ex, you don't like his daughter, and you think his penis smelled like a condom. He can watch porn, but you can't.
Okay, now weigh the pros and cons; and decide if this will be a good marriage. I don't know why you called him the man of your dreams? Sounds more like a nightmare.
Marriage isn't something you do in doubt. You have too much premarital-drama to live a happily ever-after!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2017): This is simple ...leave
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