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Dating: Help and advice

I have a few guy-related questions - who knew being single could be so complicated?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have a few guy-related problems just now - who knew being single could be so complicated! Firstly, I've been hearing a lot lately, through the grapevine, that a guy who works in my building likes me. He and I have barely said 2 words to each ...

I have a huge dilemma! Five girls to choose from...what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - ok. i have a dilemma (and no it isn't my spellings) right. i'm a bit of an accidental player...in that i'm a flirt. i'm totally in love with this girl (not naming names so we'll call her 1) i love (1). and yet i have 4 other girls try...

Have I fallen in love with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - I need help understanding myself. I am a man living in the US Who moved here about 4 years ago for work from tokyo after being there for 5 years and meeting a woman. In between jobs had a child with her and built her and my daughter a beautiful ...

Having a bad tug of war with my heart..over my current guy and the ex bf! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Alright, so my ex and I had been dating for just over a month when he broke up with me because I was distracting him from God (since we are both Christians) and that he just needed time and space to figure things out in his life because he has a ho...

I get overly excited with my bf...and it's embarrassing! Is this normal?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Um, so, this is very embarassing. But I can't ask for advice anywhere else but on the internet, because, well, it IS way too embarassing. So, to get straight to the point, I've been dating a guy for 2 months. We've grown really close together, ...

Will asking her out...ruin our good friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Hey Folks. I could really use some advice from like the best in the biz. so here it goes. Me and a girl (both 15 years old) are quite good friends like we hug like everyday usually but she hugs other people however i'm in love with her and...

I have to make a choice between 2 men as I'm hurting them..what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I am torn between two men. The first is my boyfriend of 7 months, he is the best thing that's ever happened to me and is completely devoted to me in every way. We began a long distance relationship in September when I moved away to university, and ...

How do I get over his past life with his ex gf??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I hope someone can give me some advice about how to deal with this problem I am having with some of my feelings towards my fiancee. My fiance and I have been together for almost three years (engaged for eight months) and I...

He said..I am boring!! How do I become more interesting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - How do i become more interesting? a guy that likes me said im boring. im your typical student i go to school durin the week . then on weekends i hang out with friends and party or whatever comes up... i never liked him rejected him a few times until ...

I have had unprotected sex for 5 months and not fallen pg, does this mean I cant have kids or something?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - im 17 years old i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, hes 23 years old, ever since we got together we havent used protection once, i dont have to worry about STD's because we have been tested and we are both okay. the thing is i dont want ...

Sex with the perfect guy....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (?) - Me and the guy I am with have been together for a little over a month now. He is a great guy, he makes me feel good about myself, he's ready and willing to do something with his life, and he has a lot of traits I am personally attracted to, he's ...

Could this cause pregnancy?

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17 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I just registered now and really need advice. I recently bought two types of condoms to try them out. Anyways, had sex with my gf using one kind... funny thing is that it was smaller. I hadnt cum and my gf asked me to remove it and use the othe...

How can I tell my ex I love him without making things awkward?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Okay, so; me and my boy friend broke up and I still have feelings for him, and I don't know how to tell him. I kinda thinks he still has feelings for me too he always flirts with me, and texts me. But I just need to know how to tell him that I still ...

My boyfriend loves me but wants sex with other women!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5224 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey guys so ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. we both love each other very much and weve had a happy time together, but recently an issue has got in our way. He's only admitted it once before and somet...

I am struggling with the end of our relationship. I need closure.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I am struggling to cope with the end of a 9 year relationship, and need some advice on how to get through it all as my now ex-bf has cut all contact, leaving me with many unanswered questions and no closure at all. We were together 9 years, lived ...

Should I take the leap and tell my boyfriend I love him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - after alot of ups and downs in my relationship my bf and i made back up things are going really good but i have a problem telling him how i really feel because i am afraid to get hurt.i am thinking like this if i let him know that i love him he ...

Is being attracted to older men normal?

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17 November 2009 (M) - my name is dan and i am seeing a guy who is 49 and im only 20 he is worried bout the age difference i am too but dnt tell him im worried about wat people will think of us also ive always been into older guys is that normal please help xxxxxxxx ...

My friends keep telling me to move on, but they don't understand. What do I do?

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17 November 2009 (F) - Im 18 and 2years ago i dumped the love of my life, for no reason, i tried to get him back and he wouldnt have it and for a year afterwards i fought for him and kept going back but he didnt want anything to do with me(yet he never moved on or found ...

His girlfriend told him to stop talking to me!

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17 November 2009 (F) - Hello :) Okay so I recently met a guy and his friends. He has a girlfriend, who is a friend of one of my best friends. Me and the guy talk alot, we're good friends. The other day my best friend told me that his girlfriend told him to stop talking ...

I don't know what to do. There is no romance in my marriage and I am seeing my old girlfriend.

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17 November 2009 (M) - Good day 49 years old man been married for 21 years. Have three children 15, 18 and 19. My wife and I have made love three times in the last ten years. She won't discuss the problem or seek help. Full stop. I have gotten very down about it at time...

How do people have interesting conversations via text messaging?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - What do you girls usly talk to your boyfriends about well your texting? And what do you guys like talking about with your girlfriend. Becuse its hard for me to like have a real conversation about any thing well were texting its mostly how was your ...

I am a virgin. Should I sleep with my boyfriend of 5 weeks?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - ok, im a virgin, my boyfriend of 5 weeks is not, he wants sex (he's 17). I want it so bad, when im around him i feel safe and happy. (i come from a background with alot of abuse and so does he but he has been drinking and smoking since he was in ...

How do you know if you're REALLY in love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - How do you know if your in love? I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, we always say how much we love each other... but how do I know if I'm in love? It sounds like a silly uestion because I do believe I'm in love with him as I always want him ...

How can you believe someone loves you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - [MODERATOR NOTE: Two posts from the same poster have been combined into one question.] I Love My Boyfriend So much But When he says he loves me i have a hard time believing he does because i have been hurt in the past. i have been with him for 7 mo...

How does one differentiate between a crush and real love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hello :) I read some of the questions posted here and they've left me wondering... What is the difference between a small crush, fancying someone, infatuation and being in love? I know that with each one feelings run deeper. But how exactly do y...

Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Been dating this girl for two months and while she appears to be awesome there are things that I wonder about. She was great. But....we live an hour away. She is a nympho. She has druggy friends. She smokes pot. Loves tattoos. I have no problems ...

I hate the feeling of being lonely and desparate to find someone.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - hey everyone, I'm desperately in need of some advice when it comes to relationships. Right now i feel as though i've been cursed in that area or something :(. My first real relationship was 2 yrs ago, with a guy that i had liked for more then 6y...

How can I show the girl who rocks my world, how deeply I love her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, Ok i've been seeing my girlfriend for nearly 4 months we've had sex, try to see each other as much as possible and do things together but i would really like to show her how much i care. I reeeeeeeallly love her to bits a...

I can't orgasm unless I am thinking of my fantasy!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend love eachother and have been together for almost a year. everytime we have sex its good and i enjoy it, but i can only seem to orgasm when i think of this fantasy, it leaves me feeling guilty after because i should be thinking of ...

Does my ex still care? Why do I shake when I see him?

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17 November 2009 (F) - i was seeing this boy on/off for 2 years, he was my first love...But all he ever done was sleep with other girls, lie and put me down sometimes, but he was still caring and treated me ok i guess. now its been a year and im over him, im now in a ...

Am I too young to move in with my boyfriend?

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17 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, we are in love and really care about eachother. im 17 and hes 23, we both have jobs and that. at the moment hes looking for his own place, and the other night he turnt and said to me "you could live ...

Am I still with him because I am afraid of being alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - So me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for about 3 years now. I love him very much, the deepest love i have ever felt for anyone. We have broken up 3 times and I have been the one to break up with him. The first time we dated 3 mont...

Should I meet this girl?? I think she could be trouble.

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17 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy off and on for 2 years. This year has been great. He told me about this girl he had been friends with. He had told her about me when he first started to see me. Anyway he is friends with her whole family. He does not ...

Does he really love me if he needs time to think?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I spilt up from my boyfriend of three and a half years almost 7 months ago. There has been a lot of hurt and pain caused, and a lot of things said and done and as a results we have found it really difficult to get back together. However, we still ...

Does the number of x's at the end of a message mean anything?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey, Id just like everyones opinion on this very controvertial topic! Now everyone says 'dont be silly and count the number of x's; nobody uses that as a way to say if they like someone.' But they do. Atleast everyone did a lot when we were younger,...

What should I choose, earth shattering sex or the great looking guy who is not so good in bed?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Which one should I choose earth shattering great sex you know the kind that brings a tear to your eye and make you pull out the hairs on your head and ok looks or do i choose that guy when he walks in the room everyone creams their pants. You know ...

After 5 years together, is marriage ever going to happen?

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17 November 2009 (F) - Do you think that after five years of dating the same person, if marriage is going to occur, it should have already taken place? ...

Which guy do I choose, the new guy or the one I have history with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - ive bin seein this guy for 4 months he split up with his girlfriend the same night i split with my boyfriend an we became quite close and got together however hes got 2 children and his ex announced she was 3 months pregnant just after we got ...

Thinking of getting back with my ex but he frequently doesn't answer my calls!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - my ex and i might get back...we have been talking a little over 2 months. We will probably be meeting within the next few weeks..the thing that bothers me is its been about 5 or 6 times when it will be my turn to call and i do and there is no answer ...

How long does it take for a guy to msg you back if hes interested?

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17 November 2009 (F) - how long does it take for a guy to msg you back if hes interested?...

I am having a bit of trouble kissing my boyfriend...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I am having a bit of trouble kissing my boyfriend...I have the liberty of teaching him to kiss because I am his first, and I don't know if I am a good enough teacher for this since I have only kissed one other guy a year ago! Well we were doing pr...

Was I a hit and run or did he actually have feelings for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - last night i went to a club with my sisters.there was this guy i kinda knew he said hi to me and gave him a hug.later on he kept on passing by me and talking to me and everything he would talk his lips were two inches away from mine.then he wanted ...

Why are him and his friends staring at me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - There is this one guy from my class that stares at me in the hallway for at least three seconds. He also smiled at me a couple times or smiled in my direction. In class he will look at me but look quickly away. He used to stare at me for a minute ...

He seems to feel as though I don't trust him and am being unreasonable. Am I?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I've been a single mom for 5 years, after the end of a very abusive relationship. I have 3 kids, 2 teens and an 11 year old. I started dating a guy about 7 months ago and he is awesome! He's met my kids, but we've kept it pretty casual and ...

Did I do the right thing by rejecting this guy, or should I have said nothing?

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17 November 2009 (F) - is it wrong to like a guy who has repeated called u boring? u like him and he likes u back but u rejected him alot.. becuz your not sure of a relationship with him now.. u tld him when u guys turn 25 u wud be willin to try a relatiinship if your ...

One thing finally goes right for me, and now my dad is being unreasonable. Please help me understand this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Ok so i need some quick advice. Bad. I've had a rough time with relationships. Out of the 3 ive been in, ive been cheated on 3 times. Ive finally found an amazing girl, we've been talking since this past friday, so not so long. But we both thin...

Are these the signs of obsessive behaviour?

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17 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, i love him so much, he loves me too. but over the past few months hes turned weird with me, he dont like me going out with my friends he dont admit it but i know he hates it because as soon as im out he ...

My girlfriend's threesome is haunting me...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - My girlfriend recently let slip that she was involved in a threesome when she was 16. The threesome involved her older sister (age 23) and the sister's boyfriend. Some things can't be unheard or rewound and it is now driving me nuts. The words ...

Opinions needed. Did I make the right decision?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - I recently broke up with my girlfriend of almost two years. She had tendencies that bothered me and I believe it is part of her personality and will never change. Part of me doesn't want this relationship to end because I care about her very much, ...

What should I do after 6 years of dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating a wonderful man, Bill, for 6 years. He is very caring, kind, romantic and good to me. The problem is that I see no change of status in sight – he has no intention of moving in anytime soon and doesn’t mention marriage. I guess ...

Help! What's wrong with me?

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17 November 2009 (F) - Every time after I have had sex or maybe a few days later, I get this water fluid that comes out of my vagina, it feels like I'm bleeding to death when it happens but when I check its just cloudy water that leaks quite a lot... could this be a sign ...

He said I just don't turn him on!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Ok first thanks for taking the time to read this. This guy and I started an exclusive relationship a little over a week ago. He has a hard time staying hard during intercourse, and I am very patient with him and I continue to rub him and kiss him to ...

Why did he ask me to go to the gym with him? Does he think I'm fat???

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - This question may sound a bit silly but i just want to know what my boyfriend meant by this. We were talking one night and he said hes going to start going to the gym and he asked "maybe you can come to keep me company" I felt a bit offended...

Why do I always try to make him jealous???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I'm with an amazing boy who I have been in a relationship with for 9 months now, in the past boys have treated me badly, but then he came along and it showed me not all boys are the same, its like he saved me from it all. we love each other, I'm his ...

Where do I go from here? I'm 30, she's 19 and her mum hates me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 30 and I've just started to go out with a lovely 19 year old, we both have spoken for three weeks online and before we met we both had our nerves, we finished off the first night with a kiss and since then our love for each other has ...

He watches porn all the time and it's doing my head in!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - My fella watches porn an I've explained to him how it makes me feel, it makes me feel like I'm no good in bed, and I'm wondering is he thinking of those women when we are having sex? I also explained to him that its getting me down. I dont feel the ...

Mom wants me to be with another race!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hi aunts, serious problem here... my mom is obsessed with me getting married to someone of a different race of my own, I am african american and she wants me to be with someone caucasian.. She has this thing against african americans because the ...

He never uses a condom. Is he trying to get me pregnant???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, we love each other very much, we are really happy together, have fun, chat about everything! but every time we have sex we never use condoms... the first time i ever slept with him he said he had one ...

How can I make our relationship work and get him to trust me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do, i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i realised how big a mistake i'd made and left him straight away. i talked to my boyfriend and he ...