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writes: [MODERATOR NOTE: Two posts from the same poster have been combined into one question.] I Love My Boyfriend So much But When he says he loves me i have a hard time believing he does because i have been hurt in the past. i have been with him for 7 months and could you please tell me if it sounds like hes in love with me....He took me to meet his mum a few months ago, he always makes time for me, even if he is with his mates, he also invites me to go out with him, he dont see me every single day but its usually only once a week that i dont see him so i see him about 6 times a week, hes even getting me a cute puppy for christmas and has asked me to move in when he gets his own place..im his first love and first serious relationship but no matter how many times he assures me he loves me i sometimes think he dont, but sometimes i believe him. why am i like this? and how can i start believing in him more?
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reader, Another_Kapiti +, writes (17 November 2009):
When we've been burned before it's always goin to take us longer to trust again.
He sounds lovely though! He took you to meet his mother (that's a serious thing for a guy!) it tells me that he's committed to you and really does love you.
You need to get some help regarding your issues of trust, or I can see things not working out with this guy. Is there someone at school you can talk to? A guidance counsellor or trusted teacher perhaps?
As your boyfriend is so into you, and really seems to want to put you first, I'd advise you to confide your feelings to him, let him know that you've been hurt before, and that you're trying to work through these feelings, but it might take some time.
Be as direct and honest as you can.
Good luck and hope to hear something positive in the near future!
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