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writes:Um, so, this is very embarassing. But I can't ask for advice anywhere else but on the internet, because, well, it IS way too embarassing.So, to get straight to the point, I've been dating a guy for 2 months. We've grown really close together, and he's my second boyfriend, and I also had my very first french kiss with him. Whenever he comes by my house, we usually spend some time cuddling and making out on the couch. I recently found out that, as embarassing that might sound, I get wet wayyy too easily while we are even kissing. It gets really uncomfortable and I'm always worried about something leaking down my pants and making a fool out of me. I have to excuse myself to the bathroom to change and everything.Yesterday me and my boyfriend were watching a movie on my computer, which is in my bedroom of course, and we were sitting on my bed and started kissing there, and I found myself in the same situation. He has taken a few steps towards "more than just kissing actions", like, sliding his hands under my shirt and pants, but everytime he does that I feel extremely guilty for getting so "excited" and I stop him. I actually think it isn't quite normal for someone to get ~that excited. I'm still a virgin, and even though I'm really comfortable with him, I just feel way too embarassed about this. So, um, is this normal, and, what should I do in order not to feel so embarassed about it?
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reader, Dating Advice Guy  +, writes (19 November 2009):
Don't worry about it... Its completely natural and advantageous to good sex down the road. He is probably just as worried about trying to hide his boner. If you're really concerned, consider asking the sex expert at http://www.creative-dating-ideas.com/love-making-tips.html
They are very helpful over there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): nothing to be embarrased about. from male perspective I think it is very becoming and exciting.much better than not getting wet at all. your bf will be thrilled when he finds how hot you are.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (18 November 2009):
Its totally normal. Every guy I've been with gets turned on more by how "wet" I get. It makes the man think he's turning you on (which he is) and so it's an ego boost for him. Not a negative. Trust me. Don't be embarassed.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Perfectly normal. It is nature's way (hormones) of telling you that you are physically quite ready for you know what. But you have to decide for yourself whether it would be right for you at this time, and with this young man, considering that you are still quite young and the relationship is very brief.
The relationship may not last much longer anyway (young love rarely endures), and if you succumb, then you have lost your virginity to some guy with whom you may not have a long-lasting relationship. That may prove very disappointing for you, and worse, you could end up birthing a child unless you are very careful.
Sexual activities can be a very serious matter with lifelong repercussions on several levels. It is okay to masturbate, and perhaps allow some satisfying heterosexual activities short of vaginal intercourse. Be careful and very wise.
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reader, Kuro +, writes (18 November 2009):
It's completely normal. If it bothers you try masturbating more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): :) it's perfectly normal. You might try wearing a panty liner. Ahh sweetie, its just part of it. read the links that the other aunt gave you and don't worry. good luck, mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): :) it's perfectly normal. You might try wearing a panty liner. Ahh sweetie, its just part of it. read the links that the other aunt gave you and don't worry. good luck, mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): It happens to me too, and yes its embarassing...But, as I have some more experience than you, ill tell you:both the guys I have slept with didn't see anything wrong with this, and in fact they said they loved it!!I know it because, as I had this same concern, and I was very intimate w them(they both were long-term relationships), I asked what they thought about it and all.So, i don't think you should worry about itxxx
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Depending on time of the month, the amount of lubrication can be either too much or too little. Every woman is different, unless you've been taking any medication lately (which could be a contributing factor) this is normal FOR YOU...it will vary from woman to woman anyway. I'd take it as a boon that you get so wet, trust me it's way worse the other way (too dry)!
I found a few articles online that you could have a look at:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginal_lubrication
You should have a read and see what you think. If you are still concerned, I'd have a talk with your doctor to allay any fears you might have. It's natural to be embarrassed about things we don't understand, but I think once you have a clearer idea of why your body behaves the way it does, the embarrassment should go away.
I do feel too that you should confide in your boyfriend, I know it's scary, but you say that you're comfortable with him and it will make it easier on both of you. See also 'female ejaculation' on Wikipedia.
Good luck, hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): its ok if you get exited!!!! i bet it is verry exiting!! =D
i find it is verry normal to be exited or nervous or somthing around your bf, dont worry.... try this get somone to tell you somthing really exiting and try to cover up your exited!!! it works for some people.
good luck!!!
from:jojo
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