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writes:This question may sound a bit silly but i just want to know what my boyfriend meant by this.We were talking one night and he said hes going to start going to the gym and he asked "maybe you can come to keep me company" I felt a bit offended because I thought "what if he thinks I'm fat"... I'm a size 10-12 but I'm mainly a 10, but now I feel really paranoid that maybe he wants me thinner... he always tells me off for taking diet pills saying "your gorgeous just the way you are and your not fat" now I have a hard time believing that since he asked me to join the gym with him. What do you think he meant by this? Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Everybody needs exercise. Your body NEEDS exercise, even if you're at your ideal weight. In order to stay healthy, you have to take care of your body. It's a proven fact that regular exercise drastically reduces your chances of getting sick down the road. People go to gyms not only to lose weight, but to stay in shape and stay healthy.
Furthermore, a lot of people hate to work out alone. He's probably just lonely and wants you to keep him company.
It sounds like the other aunts are right. He probably just enjoys your company.
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reader, jpwhoopass  +, writes (17 November 2009):
Obviously being more fit will make you more attractive, but he seems like a stand up guy... why not work to make yourself a healthier more attractive person to make sure he stays with you?
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (17 November 2009):
 When I was with my girlfriend I asked her to go to the gym just to have fun. I did not think she was fat or anything. It's just nice to have the company, especially if you typically work out alone 4 or 5 days a week.
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reader, april1116 +, writes (17 November 2009):
 my boyfriend asked me the same thing except i am kinda chunky and he didnt mean any harm. is fun thou try it out im sure you wanna go all the time then and when they say they want you to keep them company they mean it. but if your ashamed to go then just go when theres no one in the gym, it better when its just the too of you, but im sure youll enjoy it
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok thanks guys for helping me out. i feel a bit better now and maybe i have read too much into what he said. but yeah joining with him sounds like a good idea! thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): I don't think this has anything to do with your weight.
I know that going to the gym by yourself can be so boring and if you have someone to go with it makes it a better experience, not only do you have someone to talk with but you can motivate each other.
I asked my partner once to join the gym with me but he declinded but I did not ask him because I felt he needed to shape up, I asked him because it was boring and I didn't know anyone and I enjoy his company.
Don't take it the wrong way, if anything be happy your boyfriend wants to do this activity with you.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 The healthiest way to maintain your weight is exercise.
One reason is that a healthy EXERCISED body has more muscle than fat, and the more muscle you HAVE and USE, the higher the rate of your metabolism will be. Weight gain is simply our inputting more food than we work off. Finding the right lifestyle is crucial to not ever having to worry about this again!!!
Your boyfriend is being a sweetie by asking you to join him. It's not as if he gave you a treadmill as a Valentine's gift, right? What's more, it's another activity that he wants to share with you.
If I were you, I'd go... (Those places turn into pick-up joints on Thursday and Friday nights - they reek of sweat and cheesy aftershave! LOL!).
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reader, bitch +, writes (17 November 2009):
He doesn't think you are fat. He wants you to go with him because he would enjoy your company and would like to get in shape with you. That is all. I think you are reading into this way too much.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (17 November 2009):
 It's not that he wants you thinner. Maybe he just wants you two to get healthy together in the right way. The gym is a great place to go together. Not only can you two motivate yourselves to exercise, but you can have fun together doing it. And you can take a nice shower together after. ;) All that sweat you know.
You say you are taking diet pills? Then it seems that you want to lose weight in the first place. He probably didn't like the fact that you were taking them, because they aren't exactly the best way to lose weight. And now that he has seen you take diet pills, he knows that you might feel insecure about your weight, or that you just want to shed a few pounds. So he's offering both a good way to do so, and he's even inviting you along for his own venture in weight loss. I think what he did was a nice thing. I think it's nothing to do with putting you down or thinking you are unattractive. I just think he wants to help you out (along with himself). He wouldn't join a gym if he didn't want to get into shape for his own personal gain, and he definitely wouldn't invite you along unless he really wanted to be with you and get healthy together!
All and all, it's up to you. I think you should take the opportunity though if you are looking to lose weight, because it could be a real good bonding experience. Don't let your insecurity get to you, because he obviously thinks you are wonderful, and he's a caring guy to boot! And if you aren't looking to lose weight, then just decline and offer to help him out in another way. But stay away from those diet pills! Eat right and exercise, that's the way to go. Good luck. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): He probably just wants you there so you can have a laugh and he can check you out while you work out! As he said he likes you the way you are and you aren't fat.
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