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Archived questions from: 23 November, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

So in love with her..but she loves another guy! Help me!

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23 November 2009 (M) - im in love with this girl called Emma, she has a boyfriend who she has been with for 6 months, shes always on about how much she loves him on her facebook, we do have a bit of history, before she got with her boyfriend i was sleeping with her, i ...

I get all paranoid when he doesn't message me..why am I so insecure?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Before that I'd never had a relationship last more than 2 months. I've gone after the wrong guys and been hurt bad. My current bf is amazing. He treats me well, respects me and the other day said h...

What do you all think of 'one night' stands?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...

Is he flirting with me just to get me in bed?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - i have been flirting with this guy now for about 3 months however i don't know if i should take things further or not. Ok he works in the bar im a local at and i see him every weekend. The first time i seen him he just kept staring at me th...

Is it too late or should I ask again, should we meet up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - hi, i'd like some advice please.. I met a guy on line early this year and since easter we have been in touch by texting about twice a week sometimes more. i'm 42 and he's 48, we both are separated/divorced and have grown up children, but we live...

I'm losing my looks!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Hey. I'm 17, and basically I think my looks are fading, and fast. I know everyone is gonna think im crazy, but seriously I have noticed a big change. I never thought I was amazingly stunning, but I didnt think I was bad either. I got noticed by b...

Boyfriend has a 20 year history of being a serial cheater. Will marriage change him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Boyfriend has 20 year history of serial cheater. Will marriage change him? Will he change his cheating ways if we get married? Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On ave...

I dropped her and she's devastated..have I made her insecure?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - Hi. I have just split from my gf and its all my doing. I have not met anyone else just feel its run its course and to be honest don't really love her anymore. Problem is it feels like being a teenager again, I feel sick with guilt because she is a...

Are these signs she is cheating on me? What do you think?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - hey i'm in a long distance relationship and i suspect my partners cheating on me... many things tell me she is and i will write them as the following,but please,i would appreciate if no one answered me with the same old" oh y'know when you sta...

I can't trust my current bf, because of past bad experiences. Please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - i was hurt by my ex it took me more than a year to get over him, he made me ill and i was heartbroken, then i went on a wild thing when me and my ex ended where i would meet up with alot of boys everyweek, i started seeing a few but it never worked ...

Falling for boyfriend's best friend and open relationship??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 1/2 years and met his friend about 4 years ago and started to fancy him. He went away for a year and I was really glad because I could forget all about him. He came back and started to become really good ...

Should I make the first move?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - i think my best friend likes me, i would go out with him if he asked me but hes not the most confident of people so i dont think he would be able to ask me but if i asked him an he said no then everything would be dead akward between us but the more ...

Does he like me, or is he just fooling me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Okay so... I like this guy. I don't love him, cause that's pretty much impossible for me, since I have trust-issues... Anyway. He's like the "hot sports-jock" of our level... I mean. I'm the sad little "emo" (according to everyone else) and he's Mr. ...

She makes out with me and then tells me she just wants to be friends! I'm so confused!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - ok so this girl and I have been talking for over a month now. I really like her! she says she likes me. however I'm not sure and just wanna confirm it. we have partied together a few times and every time she has found me and been right next to me...

Pregnant and feeling rejected!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Hi I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 20 we have been together for 2 years although we broke up for 10 months and got back together in june not long after we got back together i found out i was pregnant. 5 months have past and everthing seemed...

Do you think I am the cause of his problem?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Hello i love my boyfriend so much and he loves me too, been together for some time and we are very tight, we are always together. its just he isnt very confident with himself, he covers up alot and looks anxious at times, i ask him why he does thi...

Do you think he is interested in me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - i was chatting with this guy i really like. we are good friends. he sort of appears outgoing but is actually quite shy especially with women. i,ve known him ages and he has never had a girlfriend. (he's not gay) we were recently joking about what is ...

Torn between my boyfriend and my life long best friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - First, let me introduce you to two men: Boyfriend: He is strong, smart, and the sweetest person I know. He always has great advice and never gives an answer that is anything less than thoughtful, though he is stubborn and will take it personal...

Does my boyfriend love me or not? And why does he look at other girls like he's never had sex in his life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: Two questions from the same writer combined into one here, as the information in one seems relevant to the other.] my boyfriend doesnt trust me, if i look at a boy he gets jelous and very angry and sometimes he even wants to leave...

My friend told me he loves me, but then says he's unsure?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have a male friend who i feel extremely close to, i can talk to him about anything. The other day we were having a normal conversation on MSN and i asked what gossip he had to tell me in conversation. He messed about and said things like 'haha its ...

He was married for 23 years and now she wants him back! Should I run or hang on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. I am falling in love with him. We spend at least 4 days and nights together every week since we met. Everything is great. Here is the problem. He was married for 23 years. He was deeply in ...

Dating help

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - So I have been dating this guy for 3 months. Yesterday he called me and said he realizes I am wanting us to be in a relationship but he is not ready for that. Although he loves going out and doing stuff with me. He is young 24! But I am not sure I ...

My Boyfriend's Brother hates me and its been violent!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend's brother hates me. They tell me he doesn't, at least at first they did. But eventually they all started to see what I've seen for a while now. I've know both guys for about 5 years now, we all went to high school together. Before...

Why is my wife not as tight as she was?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - I went away for couple of weeks to work, and when i came back, my wife was sort of lose, and before i went out, she was nice and tight. When i asked her why she got loose, she jumped and and chaged the topic and she did not want to talk about it...

Is sex painful?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5464 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend of 2 years with all my heart,the problem is when we kiss, whenever he feels horny and asks for sex, I get really scared, is sex really that bad and is it painful?...

Why does my fiance keep hiding the fact that he's been in touch with his ex wife?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I am getting married soon to a man whom I love very much. He is older than me, but it does not affect us. My problem is his ex-wife. He has always been a little quiet about what went on with them. Doesnt say much. I have a problem with him...

I cant get my ex's best friend off my mind!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - hi i know i already posted this question before but nobody replied and i am really needing some advise on it. okay so im having a bit of a problem. about 3 years ago i met my ex and we were together for a year and a half he was my fir...

Does he fancy my best friend and only talk to me online because he is bored?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Hey everyone. I’m very confused about this guy’s behaviour and was hoping you could help me out. He’s good friends with my best friend. I met him about a year ago and he added me on msn. Since then I’ve been talking to him a lot online. By now we t...

I'm beginning to doubt my boyfriend loves me any more...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been in a committed relationship for 4.5 months now. He stays 9 hours away from my house but we really love each other. Nowadays he doesn't seem the same. Recently I was talking on the phone with my boyfriend and his best ...

How can we get to grips with these terrible rows we're having? I know it's just pressure...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I am having terrible rows with my partner. We have got to the stage where we row about everything. He is a really nice man with children from previous relationships and in the main is fair and decent. Try as I might I don't like the fact that he ...

Is he looking for a family or mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Thanks for all the help. Ok so I have been dating this fellow for a year. As of three months ago he moved into my house with my son and I. I do think it's a bit fast however he lives a hour away and was here evey-night anyhow.. Most of his st...

I'm losing trust in this woman...

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23 November 2009 (M) - Please help me. In reference to my earlier question, I've been seeing this girl, who I liked, she didnt tell me about her past, in spite of me asking her, she told me she had a boyfriend, but nothing happened. Later on she tells me she kissed him ...

I'm too scared to say anything to him just in case I am reading too much into the situation!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have a male coworker who lives in another city, we worked closely together for a couple of years, but only met on a work weekend away (last year). We seemed to have a lot of chemistry. Although there were about 100 of us on the trip, he spent a...

Family or Lover? Torn between both.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I have fallen in love with a married men. He isn't happy with his marriage and wants to end it but it's complicated. We want to be together more than anything, but our relationship wouldn't be accepted by most people, I'm 22 and he's 60. Oth...

How do I change myself so he stops taking me for granted?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - So I've been with my boyfriend for over 8 months, everything's great and I love him very much. The problem is, when we started out, he'd call and text me all the time, take me out, buy me little gifts just because, but recently that's all stopped ...

Heartache at 40..feeling 16!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I'm approaching 40, divorced for almost 2yrs....had a boyfriend after divorce for about 8mos...he dumped me. Was pretty cold about it....why do I think of him daily? Was very close to his children, they still call me....I think about him every ...

17 and in love with my best friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - Last year, I transferred to a boarding school and there, I met my eventual best friend, who I have since fallen for. It all started this summer when we were both away from each other and I missed him every day. We talked every single day (text, IM, ...

Should I not ask girls for their phone number?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - i am having girl problems. i think i have a problem, i asked two different girls for their phone numbers last week and one was a flake and the other did not respond to my text. i don't understand because i could tell both really like me and even...

Do men feel the same way about dating as women do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have enjoyed reading the posts on this site. I am wondering in the dating world, do men or women have an easier time finding a mate? I am curious what men and women think on this topic? Personally, I have always found it hard to meet a man, I f...

Our relationship seems so one sided!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have recently met a guy,who expressed some interest...though I approached him first (at the uni night club). I would very much like to get to know him, and while it was his idea to swap numbers and he has been lovely to me(and the fact that we...

The shy guy or the flirty guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend, we went out in march, for about 2 months, we didnt go anywhere. we barely even talked.. that didnt work out so i ended it. a few weeks ago i realize i still have feelings for him. and he had feelings for me, and he asked me out. ...

He wanted to slow things down, so we had sex. How does he feel about me now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - ok so i dont kno what to do ive been talkin to a guy for 7mos. in the begining it was great but then he said he didnt have time for a gf so we slowed down. recently we took the next step and became intimate. i really like him and i wanna kno what...

I'm falling for my best friend's cousin

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - i think i am falling for this girl. the only problem is that i cant spend too much time with her because we are both going crazy for that final grade 12 push. also she is my 2 best friends cousin and she lives with them. do you think i would ha...

He hasn't made a move and I don't want to miss my chance!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I really need some unbiased advice for my situation. I really like this guy, and personally think he's right for me. We're both very religious, and saving ourselves for marriage. Neither of us have dated or kissed anyone, so we're both very ...

What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - what do i do if i am dating a person and my breath does not smell good and i do not have gum?...

Boyfriend gave his phone number to suspected interest.

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23 November 2009 (F) - Heya everyone. Ok so this may seem like a silly problem and i prob shouldnt be bothered by it, but id like peoples opinions and to just rest my mind a bit. Ok well i live about 100 miles away from my boyfriend. He is moving down here tomorrow...

Why would an attractive woman like that want such an older guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5371 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - A very pretty 37-year-old divorced woman with a 12-year-old daughter has indicated interest in me. However, I think that she is much more economically blessed, based on her home, and I'm a 62-year-old man, like 25-years her senior. Why would an...

Is it worth continuing on or am I just prolonging it by staying together??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - Hey... ive been going out with a girl for the last 3 months and things were going pretty well up until last week. she just got knid of distant. anyway we had a chat tonite and she was saying that its nothing to do with me its all her, she cant help ...

I dare not risk telling him I love him just to loose everything!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Just think about the good times..and they'll come back again! Idlove to keep saying that to myself but even the good times depress me. Im in a mess, a big fat mess!! This guys my best friend....but sadly the love of my life! Who i cannot get over....

I am accusing her of the same things that happened to me in past relationships!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - hi ihave a problem that is new to me. i have been in some really bad bad relationships. well i met my g/f 6 months ago an we were doing great. n then all of a sudden my problem from my past relationships poped up in my head. is she cheating can i ...

What can I do to make it up to him and never talk about my exes again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - i really love my boyfriend and he loves me to bits, been together for 6 months but i have known him for years, but it wasnt until one night i realised i had feelings for him and we hit it off ever since. a year ago i was hurt really bad by a boy i ...

Not attracted to obese boyfriend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4969 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I have been with the same guy for three years, we are both in our 40s. When I met him he had just lost 140 lbs through diet and exercise and was running marathons. A big part of my attraction to him was admiration for having lost all that weight and ...

How do I start over quickly, before he leaves?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I'm kinda still in love with this guy even though we've had kinda had a rough relationship. Right now, we're not talking( even though I really want to). Lets just say things got complicated. Again. He's leaving high school next year and I...