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*owgurl321
writes:Alright,so my ex and I had been dating for just over a month when he broke up with me because I was distracting him from God (since we are both Christians) and that he just needed time and space to figure things out in his life because he has a horrible past. Five days later we were hanging out and he said he was sorry and that he wanted to try again and that he was here to stay. Two months later he broke up with me again for the same reason. I waited for a couple more months and then decided to move on. I started dating someone else. He treats me like gold and I can tell him anything that's going on in my life and he'll just listen to me. Me and my ex are still friends and I was hanging out with him the other day and he broke down sobbing. He told me that he wanted to be with me and that he couldn't stand the thought of me being with another guy. When it was time for me to go, he didn't want me to leave and just kept crying. This tore me up inside and now I don't know what to do. I told the guy I'm dating all about this and I told him that I realized that I wasn't quite over my ex yet and he just listened and said that it would take some time, he didn't throw me out like some guys would've.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Aww..you're welcome! Any time you feel like giving us an update into how it's going, feel free, love to hear from you! AK.
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reader, cowgurl321 +, writes (18 November 2009):
cowgurl321 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou both so much for your answers, I really appreciate it and I'm going to stay with my current boyfriend. Your answers made me realize that my ex is just playing with my emotions and I'm not going to get too involved anymore. Thanks again!
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reader, Another_Kapiti +, writes (18 November 2009):
It's obvious that your faith is important to both you and your ex, but this doesn't give him the right to manipulate you by crying that he 'needs' you! You feel pity for your ex because of his past and this could be a symptom of what you think you still feel for your ex. I'm not say that it is, just that it might be.
As for your currently boyfriend, how wonderful that he's so understanding! I think for now you should give your current relationship a chance, and remain friends with your ex. Give him the support he needs but don't get too involved with him as he needs time to sort out what he wants from life.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Your ex broke up with you two times...what makes you think he won't do it a third time if you go back to him?
He knows you're with someone else, that's why he wants you. He said he can't stand the thought of you with another guy. He wants you because he can't have you. If you go back, the chances of him breaking up with you again are huge.
Your ex is playing around with your emotions. Don't let him do that. If he really cared that much he would not have let you go two times. Maybe he's confused but why should you suffer as well?
You have two choices:
1. Stay with your current boyfriend who seems like he really cares about you and who is good for you
2. Go back to a guy who left you twice, who jerks you around and who can't make up his mind
It's up to you...do you want to be happy? Who will make you happy?
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