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Dating: Help and advice

He gave me a back hander across the face when I mouthed off as he was yelling at me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

16 November 2009 (?) - Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. ...

He goes "soft" and I don't know what to do???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - How do you fix a guy's problem... I mean like me and the guy I like a lot!, where in the middle of doing it and he just went soft. I looked it up on webmd and it said that it cause be caused by too much drinking which he does drink a bit too much ...

Should I look for someone else?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I've began seeing a man of a different ethnicity than I am. Although I think this isn't such a big problem, I'm unsure if he would be serious with me because of culture/ethnic issues in the future. We are both adults, way past the issue of parents ...

I want to be with her but I also want to feel wanted.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hello, I am 21, currently back in a relationship with my ex, we dated previously for 5 years and took a 5 month break. Our past relationship was not healthy towards the end so she broke up with me. She recently told me she wants to try again and I ...

I'm not happy in my relationship. How can I talk to him about my feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME! I'm feeling really down at the minute and i think it may be because of my relationship. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and im only 19 so i know anything can happen and there are plenty of more fish in the...

I am pregnant and ignoring two men. Which one should I choose?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I need advice on this one. Its tricky. Am pregnant. The father of the baby has not been very supportive. He buys food and well made me sign a receipt saying I owed him 100 quid so I did and will pay it back to him and get him to sign a receipt but ...

Is there a way to tell a girl I care for her without jeopardizing a friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - The girl I like doesn't know it but I want to tell her. It's become apparent that she is gay but I have not actually asked her so i don't know for sure. She invited me on a date and we had a great time and laughed at each others jokes. I made her a ...

Can a life-long cheater ever be trustworthy or am I wasting my time?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - part one; in aug 08 my then finance added some guy to her facebook and when asked about it she said she thought she knew him, she then deleted him and i thought that was the end of it, or so i thought. part two; in jan 09 she went to her work chri...

I am in love with a girl, but she has a boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hey I'm 16 years old and i'm Having Problems. I realy like this Girl i know and i Cant stop thinking about her. thing is she has a Boyfreind alrdy. I'm lost i'm not relay Used to being in love as i'm no ladies man shall we say I dont know wh...

What is more important; love or bread?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Love or bread? Which is more important to you? Sometimes, I really wonder should girls be practical and choose guys with good family background as in rich, average looking and with a high education level or should she really have to just b...

I am so down... How can I make my relationship better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - im feeling really down at the minute and i think it may be because of my relationship. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and im only 19 so i know anything can happen and there are plenty of more fish in the sea etc but i dont want to leave ...

He acts like he is not interested, but his eyes say something different.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

16 November 2009 (?) - How can I make him confess instead of using his boddy language although he knows that I am 9 yr elder than him.I know that he loves me too much but he avoids me and he tries to show to public that he even doesn't see me.He looks at me secretly and ...

Long Distance Troubles

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He is only 2 hours away but it's still a long ways away when you're in a relationship! I'm 23, live in a small town where all my family is and I've owned a boutique here ...

Trying for a baby

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hi I have a question I really would love some advice on. My long term boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. In anyways I have been off the pill for the last year and now no longer using condoms. My boyfriend and I had sex umprotected sex on the ...

My best friend seemed surprised that a guy likes me, and not her.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (?) - At work, there is a guy that I have been crushing on- we talk once in a while, but we don't talk as much because we're in different departments. I told my friend about him and she knows I like him. She happens to knows his older sister and hung out ...

Is this really the price I have to pay for my happiness?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I dont really know where to start... Back in June I posted about how I had canceled my wedding to my fiance of 3 years and left him, and how i felt bad because he was beyond hurt. I was given a lot of advice on how he would get over it eventual...

This guy in college is REALLY pissing me off! How do I play this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hello everyone. I've these few problems. In short, I am a 20 year old male. I am in college now. I am still single, so you can guess I've a confidence problem. I've issues talking to girls. So, my problem is I've few friends here. They are alwa...

My trust issues may destroy my relationship. How can I work beyond them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - hi. i use to go out with a boy on/off for two years, i loved him so much, he was my first love...he use to lie and cheat and make me feel small infront of people, i knew deep down he didnt love me, he only wanted me when he felt like it. a year on i ...

I'm too afraid to tell him outright that I like him in case he hates me for it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hey ok ive wrote here before about a guy that me and some others thought really liked me and then when he was asked he denied it but still continued to show it. For some reason he would talk to be on msn but i had to start the convos and if we were ...

How long are you supposed to be casually dating before it becomes a proper relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - What's the longest amount of time you've 'seen' someone before you make it a proper relationship. I've been seeing this boy for about 4 months now but he doesn't want to take it further into a relationship yet. It's basically a relationship anyway ...

He dated my friend and now my friends don't like him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hi. So, about two months ago, I started dating this guy. I really really like him, and he's basically one of the kindest and sweetest people I'll ever meet. He treats me very well and tries his best to make me happy. Thing is, not long before he s...

Is he using me till he finds the love of his life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (?) - hey im inlove with dis guy we now ha almost three years together i do really love him,but problem is that im sure if he really love me.we broke up for ten tyms and make up again my problem is,is he using me until he gt the love of his life cuase ...

I have slept with 44 girls can't stay attracted to any women!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - I have slept with 44 girls now and I can't seem to find the one. I dont want to settle for second best and I feel like the right girl hasn't come along. I am a male whore and I enjoy having sex. But I get annoyed with women quickly and little ...

Long impossible question about building bridges made of thoughts and dreams

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5491 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - So, long story short, I'm returning to my gf after a few months of LDR. I recognize where she is essential to my life and where I need to control myself, in terms of my sexual appetites, my work habits, and to some extent, my freedom, as that is the ...

Christmas gift after 1 month of dating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for about a month now, what do I get him for Christmas? I know I should get him something based on his personality, hobbies, etc but I don't want to overdo it. Any general ideas or opinions on what would be a good...

It's impossible falling out of love

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Okay i Fell in love with this guy summer of 09 when i was visiting my couzin in L.a...! he always flirted with me and told me he loved me..long story short he really liked this Girl named Miranda But he Used me and this girl named Bethany but he ...

Young and in love with 2 boys..HELP!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I am young, and not naive, so please don't baby me. But I am in a dilemma. School started just 2 months ago and I have been with my boyfriend about that long. However, my entire summer was spent single, and I really enjoyed the freedom of being able ...

Why do we like falling asleep on the phone together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - hey everyone, i know this is gnna sound weird but i have a question; me and my boyfriend love sleeping on the phone with each other. when we talk at nights and we are about to fall asleep we dont say good night and hang up we tend to fall asleep on ...

I prefer older guys! Should I hold off on dating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - this may sound bad but im 16 and i've noticed lately that im more atracted to guys in like there late late teens or like 22, so like 18-22... i just ind guys my age anoying and inmucher....i just want to find some one to cuddle with and feel safe ...

I am a mess because my girlfriends bad dreams!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - hey my girlfriend was sexually abused and has nightmares about her uncle. she cuts herself sometimes and she tells me about the dreams and i cant handle it so i cut myself. i have gotten her help and i went to the police and im not asking about...

How do I tell my mom about my boyfriend, who she probably won't like?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hi im 18 and my boyfriend is 20 and I have been dating my him for a year and some months now and we are in love but i havent told my mom. The reason for that is because she is so strict with me and i kno when i tell her i wont see him that much ...

I'm afraid that I'm so hungry for comfort I'll jump into any relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Things have been very confusing for me lately, I just started University, one of my best friends abandoned our ten year friendship for a guy that she knew I liked (who I was also friends with) over the summer, my grandmother is very ill and despite ...

I don't want to provide all the perks of a relationship if I'm not in one!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - I got reunited with my old childhood crush about a year and half ago. It had been 14 years since i seen or talked to him. Well, i spent time with him shortly after we got reunited, and i could see why i liked him all those years ago. We stayed in ...

Are we a couple of does he just want a hook up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5491 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Does he only want to keep hooking up? I met this guy Matt*(fake name) at a party in late September, his friend told me he was interested in me and he found me on Facebook, he then gave me his number and we've been hanging out since but I feel lik...

I don't know if she has a boyfriend. Should I ask her or her best friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - I like this girl who ive talked to a handful of times but shes never mentioned a boyfriend but i still dont know for sure if she does or not, her best friend goes to the gym i go to and i see her almost everyday, should i ask her friend if shes ...

How do I find out if there is an 'us' without sounding needy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - hi a while back i met this guy and we instantly clicked, the sex with him is amazing i can go so far as to say that its possibly the best sex of my life!!!the thing is he lives in another country which is not a huge deal its like 45min flight and ...

Will sex become more enjoyable for her with time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, Just a really quick query but....me and my girlfriend have reached the stage where we are starting to have sex. She has had it before so shes not a virgin but hasnt had it for a little while i.e. a few months. We have only done it...

Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Am I over reacting if my boyfriend has a wedding on the day of my birthday and I do not want to attend? I am not close with the couple that is getting married and my birthday is the only day out of the year that it is all about me. He gives me a ...

Because I text a girl my girlfriend broke up with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Me and my love of my life were back together and we went to the car wash and she brought her friend she went through my phone when i wasn't looking and saw that i text another girl, she freaked out and confronted me and walked off, i dont know what ...

Should I go (and risk being hurt) or stay well away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - I'm having a problem regarding the boyfriend of my girlfriend's friend and work colleague. He is a distinctly unsavoury character and when i first went to a work do of my girlfriend's and he turned up he was nasty, rude, arrogant and racist (he ...

I feel so betrayed... he's addicted to porn.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5192 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - Hi I was in a very abusive marriage for 12 years and had 3 children when i got divorced i never thought i'd find anyone who would meet up to my standards but i did, we decided to move in together after 3 years of dating and shortly after found out ...