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Archived questions from: 2 November, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

A few days ago he sweeps me off my feet. Now he wants to be friends. What happened?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I posted this yesterday but gave everyone the wrong idea by using the word 'intimacy' - I didn't mean sex, I was just trying to describe the feeling of closeness we had, as though we'd been together for a long time... I don't know what happened!! ...

Why does no guy want to get to know me?

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2 November 2009 (?) - Why do I feel as if no guy really likes me? Its like I am not good enough or pretty enough for a guy to like me. Its hurtfull because every guy I like turns me down(not that I a couple at once it is through a period of time) What do I do, could it ...

I lied to my date about basic info

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2 November 2009 (F) - I'm new to the whole online dating scene but I figure why not give it a shot. I'm a very personal person and I did not want to reveal that much information about myself in case I do not like the guy. So I chatted with this guy online and he wa...

My mental illness broke us up, and I want her back! do I have a chance? Is there a way?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - I Dated my ex, the love of my life (I am sure)for 4 years, but my bipolar disorder (diagnosed) ruined our relationship (paranoia, delusions, rage, hypersexuality, and general mania). I am now medicated (lithium), and well. She has a new boyfriend, ...

He's younger than me and might be expecting too much, should I stop it now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - This is a tricky question and I thank all who tackle it. I am in my early fifties. I am told I am relatively attractive and am in reasonably good shape. I am attracted to a colleague in his early thirties and it would seem mutual. He is a terrific ...

Is this incest?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - Ok, Im 19.. I have a 21 year old sister who has a boyfriend at the age of 35.. He has a nephew at the same age as me! We have been talking for a while and my sister found out and her and her boyfriend tried to set us up... My sister an her bo...

Should I date my bad boy best friend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5493 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - ok so this will only take a few seconds please help... my best friend is 19 and i am only 17 he says he is in love with me.. i think his really hot and sweet and his a bad boy 2..... but i dont want it to ruin our friendship... i trust him with all ...

I want to be sexually active but put my defences up before anyone can get close. Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I'm eighteen and I still haven't lost my virginity. I want to become sexually active but I freeze up whenever a potential opportunity arises, and just feel really nervous and uninterested. I always assume guys are just after one thing, and put up my ...

Lost for Words. How can I ask this girl out?

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2 November 2009 (M) - Ok, just gonna come out with it. Theres this girl I like, she got hammered on saturday and I went to go pick her up cause she told me she was scared and wanted to leave. Just before she got a ride home, she kissed me, I went to her house the next ...

I feel so inadequate, but how do I get to know him better?

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2 November 2009 (F) - Alright, so I happen to like my brother's friend, sort of. I mean, I've met him once, at her house, but prior to that my friend actually told me that she'd showed him my picture and that he thought I was cute, and that I was his type and everything ...

I want to date the girl my mum used to babysit!

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2 November 2009 (M) - Hi.. I need help with a dilema. I'm very interested in a girl! But.. she is younger than I, not being a problem, but my mother used to babysit her when she was younger, and My mother, nor her father would agree with us dating. What should I...

She likes me, she likes me not. Should I pursue her?

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2 November 2009 (M) - Hey so there's this girl that I like and have only known her for around 6 months, she was a friend of a friend but has now become quite close to me. Every time we meet up on a night out with friends etc we really hit it off. The only problem is ...

The girl I like was with me and my best mate!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - Okay, theres something which has been troubling me for the last couple days.. The other night, it was one of my best mates' going away party thing, and on that night i met this girl through mutual friends. Problem is, so did my friend who the going ...

Why is porn regarded as such a bad thing in couples?

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2 November 2009 (F) - i just have to ask peoples opinions on this, why is porn such a no-no when it comes to couples? my partner and i enjoy naughty weekends where we explore our kinkier side and watch and make our own porn (to be viewed by only us i stress!!) but i hea...

His eyes are always on me. Is he flirting?

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2 November 2009 (F) - Simply what does it mean when a man winks at a girl from across the room, more than a few times? We've never really spoken except saying "hi" (in a shy manner) when we pass one another. He is always giving me eye contact like he can't take his eyes...

Do her drunken texts reveal something new?

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2 November 2009 (M) - We all know how blunt or honest we can be when drunk. Here's the scenario. She's 23, at a bar, drunk and I'm at home relaxing from a long day of work. Here's the texts: Me: What's up? Her: I'm at a bar babe... gettin pretty drunk haha Me: Lo...

I'm flirting with someone's boyfriend. Does he like me?

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2 November 2009 (F) - I finally told this boy I liked him, even though he has a girlfriend. He always flirts with me and the other night he was sending me some extremly flirty texts about if he didn't have a girlfriend he would get with me and do stuff. I really like...

I told his kids how I felt about their dad. What did I do wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I have known an older guy with kids for at least a month now and there are many things he has done and said that lead me to believe he was interested in me like he would flirts with me and once or twice he has held me in his arms and cuddled me. Si...

On a break... feedback needed.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - So, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for two and a half years. I love her more than life itself and vice versa. I just moved a couple of states away, however, for college. Everything is still great between us, but we have mutually decided to ...

Dating and about to quit!

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2 November 2009 (M) - ok well I am 18 and no one ever seems interested in me and I am putting myself out there but I am about to just give up and quit trying to date. I need some help on how to get people. I am bi btw...

Why am I hurting down there?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I recently had sex with my boyfriend for the first time a few months ago, and the area between my vagina and bum hurts, and it has been for about 3 days now. Is this normal? Please reply....

Communication issues...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now. For the past few weeks, I've felt that there has been an unspoken emotional and physical distance between us. Both of us have been busy lately, and haven't had that much time, which I ...

Is this a stupid crush or should I question my relationship?

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2 November 2009 (F) - I recently moved in with my boyfriend after being with him for just over 3 years and just before we moved in together, I started to get feelings for a coworker. We got on so well and we always flirted. Ever since I left the company (to move in with ...

I want to enjoy sex, but he's too big!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - My new partner is also a dear friend of mine. Over the weekend we met up and when we came to "doing it" he was too big for me. We had done foreplay beforehand and he was reassuring but i want to be able to enjoy it without it hurting, any advice?...

I am want to cry, but he thinks it’s silly!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - If something is bothering you to the point you feel so hurt and you want to cry but yet, in his eyes, it is so silly, and nothing to worry about. Is it worth getting frustrated over it and confront your significant other and make sure you do not ...

Help! How do I get my first kiss?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - ok well I'm 18 and I have never had my first kiss or anything. please tell me how I should get it. I need major help so please give me all your ideas....

Is this emotional black-mail? Is he too possessive?

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2 November 2009 (F) - [MODERATOR NOTE: Location specifics have been removed. Otherwise the post remains true.] I know this i quite long but I really need your help and I don't know who else to ask! My boyfriend and I have been going out for 6 months and they have...

Does this mean she wants me back?

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2 November 2009 (M) - Me and my girl have been broken up for about 3 weeks because my ex wife keeps texting and calling her and it drives her crazy but she wont change her number. she says she needs her time and space and is not interested in anybody else. she keeps ...

I can't stand the thought of my divorced parents with new partners, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - My parents have recently split up after 30 years of marriage. I think one of them has just started a new relationship and I don't know what to do. I don't want to have anything to do with the new partner but does that mean I can't have the same ...

I'm pretty much in uncharted waters with no paddle...what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - dear cupid, I work for a hardware store. while I was with my ex and a girl my age was hired. at first we where just friends. I found out she has a boyfriend. I treated her like a friend, basic bullshiting. we became close friends. her boyfriend also ...

Do I date him? I don't want to be hurt like he's hurt others.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - i posted a question a couple of days ago because i was unsure of whether the guy i liked liked me back. i now know that he does like me back but he has made out with two girls recently and is not dating either of them. he has told them this and they ...

He says he loves me but is chatting to girls online!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - ive been in this relationship for two years now-one of which my boifriend was in the states. he'd tell me he loved me and everything, but after he came back we continued on like he never left. after a while i got ahold of him email addresses and ...

What do these mixed signals mean that she has been giving me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - There is this one shy girl I like, who happens to be my best friend's sister. Lately, I have been getting the impression that she likes me (i.e. she'd look at me when I'm not looking at her, act surprised when I say something to her, talks to her ...

Should I contact him and tell him how I feel, or

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I'm conflicted, I care for this guy we were together for three yrs. I found out he has another girlfriend now ( and may I say she and i could be twins with exception I'm not trying to be full of myself but I'm way more attractive than she is but ...

Is his text evidence that he is cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I saw my boyfriend texting this other girl, and I thought nothing of it until I caught a glimpse at the end of the text, and he wrote love you to her. I know that she is not a family member and he told me that he was talking to a guy and not a girl. ...

Do my actions warrent a breakup?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I hope I didn't destroy my relationship with the man I want to spend the rest of my life with!! He has epilepsy, brought on by a blow to the head when he was in high school. He is on medication for it and as long as he takes it, he is fine. I hadn't...

How do I move on from this older guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - hey, I'm 13 and i have known this one guy for nearly 3 years now and at one point in that time we sorta had a thing going on and ever since then i have not been able to get him out of my mind for anything i have tried other guys everything deleting...

How do I get through this bad relationship?

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2 November 2009 (F) - I'm 15, my ex boyfriend is 16. We started dating November 16/08. I was at a weak state of mind, and I fell in love with our dysfunctional relationship. He has no future, he lives in a dysfunctional home with an alcoholic backround. Ever since I...

How do you give love bites?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm still a virgin and me and my boyfriend have decided to have sex soon. I just wanted to know how to make love bites (hickey )....and how can i make our sex enjoyable so that my boyfriends keeps on asking for more sex.........

Why did I have to fall in love for the first time with someone like him, so perfect but so bad at the same time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend very much and I have put up with a lot from him, and have forgiven him many times, even though he feels what he did was justified. See we have been together for 3 years, and in the beginning everything was absolutely perfect. I ...

I am messed up here...what does this guy want from me?

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2 November 2009 (F) - Hi there, I am so confused about a guy i am seeing. We have known each other about 3months and have met up a few times for casual sex. but he says he wants more than this, and is depressed about not being in a relationship. he usually says this by ...

I'm getting tired of my boyfriend's friend! What should I do?

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2 November 2009 (F) - I'm starting to get really agitated with my boyfriend's friend. Let me begin by saying I'm in an LDR. We are five hours away from each other. I have asked him to come to this trip that's two hours away for me and three hours away for him. He said ...

He said he 'loved me' on the phone but he sounded lost. Should I bring it up and discuss this with him?

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2 November 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for a few months now. He got locked up 2 months ago. I've been going to see him and help with the things he may need. I haven't seen him in about 2 weeks. He calls me this morning and left me a voicemail, asking me to come ...

He is a father figure to this boy..he calls his son. Not sure where I fit in here?

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2 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a year. I love him and we've discussed moving in together... The problem in our relationship right now is his "son". Six years ago, he began dating a single mother. Her son was only 3 months old when ...

What did she mean when she just emailed me and said"sparks will fly again"?

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Am I shallow because I like men, based on their looks?

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2 November 2009 (F) - I need some advice/opinions/anything on this issue I have. As long as I can remember I’ve been really attracted to blond/blue eyed/boyish looking men (Brad Pitt when he was young, Jensen Ackles, Patrick Wilson type guys). I’ve ‘chased’ a few guys in ...

He said "Hey" to me and asked how was I doing..so is he interested?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5414 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - ok so every morning on my way to class i pass this guy on the sidewalk. at first we just smiled at each other and made eye contact but last week i worked up the courage to say hi. the next time i saw him, he said hey to me and asked how i was doing. ...