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reader, Shan25  +, writes (18 November 2009):
i went thru this before but first never sleep with two people at the same time but i cant tell you who to choose but i chose the not so good sex because i fell for his charm and i gave he confidence in the you know what area and he left me so best luck
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reader, duce00 +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Hoooraaaa for the normal looking guys!!!
Same goes for the ladies too!!!
You said something that seemed off to me though.
"Teaching is not my thing for men I have a child to teach."
For that you do deserve a little tongue lashing!
In my experience of the women who were boring in bed, they had little or no physical communication or desire to share in what turns us BOTH on. Call it curiosity for lack of a better word.
Hope you can take a little banter, it was meant to be educational in a funny way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): it really depends on the kind of relationship you are looking for...and ask yourself what it is you really want out of it. I would definitely say, "DROP THE EX!!!" Not worth it, and it's just overrated. Forget the past and the EX's...move on and look forward. If it's only sex you're looking for then have sex and don't get into an actual relationship. Why hurt someone that way? There's a lot of men who are only looking for women to be pleased and nothing more. But it's up to you what you want to do in that aspect. Are you looking for love or just a one night stand??
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Then it appears you already have your answer.
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reader, vivachacha +, writes (17 November 2009):
vivachacha is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just to clarify a couple things I am not seeing them both at the same time one of them is an ex that I am comparing the new guy to. I guess I want to try and find that same feeling my ex use to give me. I know that exploring eachothers bodies helps sex however their are somethings that you have to be naturally good at no matter how many times you can try and teach someone. Anyways not looking for anyone I have to teach want someone who can go toe to toe with me in the bedroom. Teaching is not my thing for men I have a child to teach.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (17 November 2009):
Oops. I withdraw my advice. I thought you liked the other guy for more than his body and face. Then I pick neither.
I like my men intelligent, confident, wise, rugged, older, maybe with crooked teeth or a scar... something that makes him human... and it doesn't matter who else drools over him... that's my job.
;-)
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (17 November 2009):
Definitely Mr. Right-In-All-The-Other-Ways....
When someone "isn't good in bed" it is because they are not physically connected to you. This can change and they alone are not to blame. Help him to explore your body while you explore his. Show him what you want and ask him to do the same for you.
Sex is fluid like few other things are. You can not guide someone in the arts of conversation, mutual goals and philisophy in the same way as you can work together to make the sex earth-shattering.
It takes two to have a good time in bed. Never fake an orgasm and always be honest in an encouraging way. It will happen.
Good luck.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 So, you want a guy that only you know is really great to have or a guy that any girl thinks she wants to have although she really doesn't because he sucks...
Mind you, would either guy want a girl this shallow and who is fucking two guys at the same time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): Id go for great sex with Mr Ok Looks any day! Looks dont amount to a hill of beans.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Oh.. no question about it.. definitely the sex..
Being with mr gorgeous is not fun... you would spend your time wondering if he was being a bit more than just friendly to all those women who will be throwing themselves at him....
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