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writes:me and my boyfriend love eachother and have been together for almost a year. everytime we have sex its good and i enjoy it, but i can only seem to orgasm when i think of this fantasy, it leaves me feeling guilty after because i should be thinking of him (which i do sometimes) but lately i cant orgasm unless i think of that certain fantasy. i feel bad and is this normal to be doing that while having sex with my boyfriend? i love him more than anything that i just want to orgasm because hes having sex with me not because im thinking of some fantasy. please help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis is gonna sound a bit crazy, but its over a school teacher who use to teach me! i feel really bad because i didnt even fancy that teacher so why do i do this?
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I can't orgasm with my boyfriend at all but i get close when i think of him as someone else. I know it sounds bad but i guess as long as they don't know then it's ok. I think that a lot of people do it....secretly lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): If you don't mind telling us, what exactly is the fantasy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe do every position going! but no matter what position im in i still think of that fantasy. but i mainly orgasm through penetration...i just want to be able to orgasm without that fantasy, i can sometimes, its not that i dont find my bf attractive because in my eyes he is sex on legs! but its not often that i orgasm unless i think of that fantasy..
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 You don't mention what sort of sex you're having. If you're having vaginal penetration, then you're lucky to be able to orgasm from it at all, fantasy or no. Something like 75% of women can't. It may be that your fantasy is what pushes you over the top in a position that otherwise doesn't stimulate you enough.
Try changing up the position. If you're doing missionary, try doggy or cowgirl. Better yet, though, encourage him to try giving you oral. If he practices that, you shouldn't have much trouble orgasming regardless of what's on your mind.
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