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writes:Been dating this girl for two months and while she appears to be awesome there are things that I wonder about. She was great. But....we live an hour away. She is a nympho. She has druggy friends. She smokes pot. Loves tattoos. I have no problems with that if she is being faithful to me. Well she says she fell asleep at 830 in the evening in the middle of a text convo on her couch. I found out that her friend Aaron actually came over that afternoon. She didn't tell me about it because she was smoking pot with him and wanted to hide it. Well he now lives in the apartment below her. She swears they are nothing more than friends. Well she's started to "fall" asleep on the couch 2 or 3 times a week now. And she has been overly affectionate lately. Like she says I love you like 8 times a day when i would visit her for the weekend. I want to know if she is cheating from an unbiased opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell She is in her home state for the week. Comes back on thanksgiving. She was at a friends wedding saturday and texted me all night long friday and saturday night til 2 am. Well she was supposed to have her guy friend be her date for the wedding. He couldn;t make it. Well today a friend of hers amd her went to visit him an hour away. She told me about it like it was nothing but it still bothers me. Now what the heck do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answers every one. I am still formulating what I am going to do. I have driven up and surprised her and everything was fine. Of course it was a night where she was texting me the whole time so I was sure nothing was going on that night. Its time to find a good woman not a woman who wants to play games. Bottom line is she came off too perfect from the get go. Still has that too good to be true air to her. I'll keep you posted. Thanks again.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 November 2009):
She could be...but let me just warn you that from my experience; people that hide things from you (the pot smoking and friends coming over) are usually cheaters. Not telling you is the same is lying, so obviously they can't really be trusted. I think either way you should dump her. Also, being overly affectionate suddenly can be a sign that she's feeling bad about cheating so she's showering you with affection. I don't really believe she fell asleep either, then again, pot does put you to sleep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): its hard to say, she sound quite independant and has her own life.id say follow your instincts. in my experiance, when someone has cheated on me i had no idea, not a clue. so if she tells when she has seen this guy then maybe he is just a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): Yes, she could be cheating(more than likely). But, she may just be telling you she loves you a lot because she's insecure. Are you two having problems in your relationship, besides about that other guy going over ho her house? You should try talking to her and ask her if there's anything she wants to talk to you about. And if you guys are okay or not... just tell her how you feel! If she didn't tell you the truth from her own mouth then she's hiding something. Seems suspicious, "the guy moving in right below her apartment." :O seems pretty planned to me. Plus, what the hell is she doing letting a guy go into her appartment??? And do you know exactly how long he stays over??? I would like to help you out. I'm a girl, so I know how other girls think and let me just tell you this: confront her if it keeps bothering you and she keeps, "falling asleep on her couch" -- hard to believe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): It's hard to say if she is cheating on you, but I must say keep your eyes open because she has lied to you already.She obviously wanted to hide the fact that she had a guy to come over and smoke pot with her so she lied and said she fell asleep. I can't say for certain if she thought you would blow a gasket if she told you or if you would have a trusting attitude towards the whole thing. It still doesn't change the fact that she lied to you and is still lying to you about it. That shows that she is not really an honest person. So if you haven't told her that you know and discuss this, then I don't think that the relationship is going to last very long. In essence, it's real early in the relationship and since you only have her lying about her smoking with a "friend" and not real proof, you should keep your eyes and ears wide open. I do find the fact that she lied to you about falling asleep texting when she is smoking pot with a friend is very questionable. Again be careful with this one. Best of luck.
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