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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, i love him so much, he loves me too. but over the past few months hes turned weird with me, he dont like me going out with my friends he dont admit it but i know he hates it because as soon as im out he rings and texts a lot. if i wear low cut tops he tries to cover me up, even if i chat to a male or comment on a male celebrity he goes or silent and looks a bit angry... i know he loves me, and dont get me wrong hes lovely to me and wouldnt ever hurt me, but are these the signs of obsessive behaviour? or is he just caring about me, im his first love, his first proper girlfriend could this be why hes so protective of me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni havent gave him no reason not to trust me, im 100% loyal i wouldnt hurt him. its not that i want to show my boobs to other guys because i dont, its just why cant i wear the tops that i want without getting him all paranoid.and i think your right him over caring does sometimes lead to misunderstandings and arguments, i just wish i could get him to see that i only want him...and i dont see how commenting on celebrities makes him upset because its not like im going to actually meet them...but thanks guys for all your comments i just hope things get better x
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reader, BlueBag +, writes (17 November 2009):
 This is how many guys react. I wouldn't say it is obsessive behaviour but over protective behaviour.
I don't think you should be constantly treading on egg shells but try to be a bit more considerate of his feelings. Is there any need to comment on celebrities? You know that makes him upset so keep those thoughts to yourself.
When it comes to wearing low cut tops, you obviously want to look nice when you go out but be a bit more choosey when he can see what you're wearing before you go out.
It shows he is insecure about you going out if he constantly calls and texts you. So why don't you reassure him with a quick text to let him know you're thinking of him before he has the chance to bug you.
Its always the little things that show people you care. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): its not that she wants to show her boobs or be around sme1... but her bf is not only her priority of her life. Every human being has several priorities in life which has to go along like family, friends, relatives, college, work, party, social gatherings, etc. That doesnt mean that if she has a bf, she would stop being in contact with anyone and only spend time for him. Sweety, i know what you are going thru. Because im going thru the same situation in my life. N even my bf knows me and knows everything thats going around me but still he gets stubborn, aggressive and keeps everything to himself. He has also stopped saying me " I LOVE U HONEY" or "I MISS U" ,,, evrything which was special in our relationship in going to an end. Due to all this, I have got hypertension. Because whatever i do at the end , he is not satisfied. I have even tried talking to him. But no use. I can only recommend u to talk to him and get the REASONS of his behaviour and analyse and take a decision urself. Others can only suggest u, but u know more probably than anyone else how to deal with your *bf* and your *relationship*. Because due to my bf, I have stopped social gatherings and even not allowed to go out alone, etc. So just be patient and enjoy ur life. And I do agree he cares for u, but over caring sometimes leads to misunderstandings and argument and as time will pass by, it will get more worsen. Set your boundaries with your guy, so that he understands and respects your thoughts, concerns and feelings. ALL THE BEST. do reply
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): sometimes thats how guys r , why would u wanna show ur boobs when you have a bf so other guys can look at ur boobs 2?....and why would u check out other celebrities when u have a man u can look at.... im 17 myself so i know whats up at that age and i can tell u all he wants to do is protect u from other guys and stuff...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): your boyfriend has a self esteem issue. i used to do the exact same thing when i was with this girl who i thought could do better than me. i would get so paranoid when she was out that she would meet someone more interesting..so i'd call and txt to sus out where she was and who was there, when she's be home etc. paranoia. the irony is, i annoyed her so much with this crap that she did eventually go out and find someone better.either that, or you have given him some solid grounds for not trusting you?
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