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writes:Im 18 and 2years ago i dumped the love of my life, for no reason, i tried to get him back and he wouldnt have it and for a year afterwards i fought for him and kept going back but he didnt want anything to do with me(yet he never moved on or found someone else). So a year ago i met a new guy and was with him for a year but it ended i never had strong feelings for him like i did with my previous bf and recently after splitting with that guy i met the love of my life and we were speaking for a few weeks and then hooked up at a party and that night he said he would see me the next day and when i asked him he picked a fight with me and i said sorry and i was embarrassed and he was being nice back and said dont be, but then i asked him what i done wrong and he never replied and then i texted him sayin "please tell me if im wasting my time" and hes not replied. I dont know what to do, i waited two years to get him back and hes all i want. My friends dont understand and keep sayin move on but its so hard cause hes all i want.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (17 November 2009):
What you need to do is what you friends are telling you to do, which is "move on." If he broke up with you 2-years ago and doesn't want to be with you, I'm sorry, but he is not the love of your life. I'm assuming that after all this time you haven't gotten over him completely yet is because you have maintained some sort of contact with him off-and-on over the past couple years. Well you need to stop that, because if you keep in contact with him you'll never get over him. You really need to look at this from an outside perspective, he goes about doing whatever he wants, coming in and out of your life as he pleases, and you stay there begging for him and looking like a lost puppy dog. You don't need him but it sounds like you feel that you do, but you really don't!So quit talking to him and don't magically run into him anywhere. You're only goig to prolong the hurt if you keep trying to be with him. Move on and it's okay if you don't meet someone new right away. Personally I think it's better to be alone for a while so you are more secure with yourself. And if/when you meet someone new, don't compare them to your ex, if he was so great and loved you too, he'd be with you.
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