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writes:I recently broke up with my girlfriend of almost two years. She had tendencies that bothered me and I believe it is part of her personality and will never change. Part of me doesn't want this relationship to end because I care about her very much, but I would like to try dating other people who do not have these tendencies like she did. I can live with the way she treated me but it would make my slightly more difficult than it already is. I am beginning to feel selfish for abandoning her based on my own happiness because I'm afraid she will not be able to find love with someone understanding enough and I really want her to be happy. I need to know that I am making the right decision. Is it wrong for me to stay with someone I love even if they can be childish or irrational or just plain mean sometimes? I do love her and I know i could love other people with time. I do feel pity for her and i think leaving her would be taking what I want from a cold world for my own happiness and benefit. Is this selfish? Is this wrong?
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reader, fishdish +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I don't think you should be with her out of pity, which is almost how you're coming off--I'm one of the only ones that can tolerate her x y and z even though I have issues with those tendencies of hers. let someone else deal with them/ embrace them/ not be bugged by them. there may be people that are even more patient and loving of her than you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): maybe become friends and see where it takes you? if you truly love her you will probably need to be with her after a while.
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reader, april1116 +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I feel like you didnt love her then i mean im not telling you to take stupidity or any thing like that but just say you wanted to date other people don't blame it on cause she acts childish ect. if you stayed with her for 2 years then you could have put up with it throughout you know so you just want to explore other women.do your thing but I just hope that you didn't fall out of the pan in to the skillet so just think about it. and second before you broke up with her did you try to communicate with her and see if things could have changed ya know maybe you should have tried that first cause talking really does help sometime.
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reader, thome  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 first i want to ask you if you still love her. if you still love her and your heart always calls her i think you did a mistake. if you really love somebody you should accept who ever she/he is. you know, the person whom you love so much is only the one who can give you the happiness that you are looking for. if you are with your loved one you are happy but if you are not with her/him you are so sad. i am saying this because the person whom i love so much went back to his country without telling him that i love him. you know what, not telling him the truth is the biggest mistake that i've ever done in my life.
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