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writes:I'm with an amazing boy who I have been in a relationship with for 9 months now, in the past boys have treated me badly, but then he came along and it showed me not all boys are the same, its like he saved me from it all. we love each other, I'm his first love and first proper girlfriend, he adores me. the thing is I always try to push him away, like I talk about past boys in front of him to make him jealous, I pretend I'm texting people when really I aint just to make him jealous, I love him more than anything in this world but I know I'm pushing him away by doing this.. I dont understand why Ii do this to him, why do I do this to him?... I even broke up with him one night and after Ii done it I cried my eyes out and begged for him to come back. Why am I like this? and whats caused me to do this? How can I stop? I love him and I hate what I'm doing. Please give me some advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): really understand how you feel. it's really hard when he feels like your first love and so different from the other guys in your life. maybe you push him away because you're scared he'll be too involved in your life and when he pulls away, you'll be too attached and left hanging. maybe you just want to feel power, that you can be without him but he can't. maybe you're testing him, because you felt him pull away (although you're on hyper-alert for those things). maybe you're jealous of his time/attention and feel he's not giving enough to you. maybe you want to find out if you really love him or not. maybe it's for all or some of those reasons. maybe you
you're probably a lot stronger than you realize because you probably know that it makes you stronger to not push him away and to let him in. even when he does things (un/intentionally) to test you or hurt you, if you still go after him and make sure he knows that you love him, i think that's getting to a love that is real and not just romantic. if you only loved his love for you, then what's the point? it's easy to feel like your boyfriend has to be your everything and for him to do everything you like - and in the beginning of relationships, you're crazy about him and it seems so perfect. when the initial thrill wears off though, you'll find out what really attracted you to him in the first place.
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 ur not used to having the good guy there.and ur trying to make a fight with him just so that your relationship can be fun and intresting. i think u feel bored with having a perfect boyfriend.he sounds perfect and i think that u dont want that..ur so used to having the bad ones treat u bad now that his not doing that u feel that u need to do it. maybe the past is hunting u..like the say the bad ones are the ones that will hunt u forever.
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reader, april1116 +, writes (17 November 2009):
 cause you feel if he gets jealous then he really loves you but you really are makin it bad for your self and eventually he will get tired of it.the best thing for you to do is communicate with him and let him know the thought that run through your head. communication really helps. please stop acting like that with him you say he's amazing right well dont f**k it up cause if you do he will wind up being amazing to someone else. trust i know through experience so just be cautious of what your doin
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