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writes:Hey Folks.I could really use some advice from like the best in the biz. so here it goes.Me and a girl (both 15 years old) are quite good friends like we hug like everyday usually but she hugs other people however i'm in love with her and i'm not saying i'm the most handsome guy out there because obviously i'm anything but, however i'm not scared to ask her out on date or anything but i'm afraid that if i do, it could ruin our friendship. So Agony Aunt's and Uncle's do you have any advice for me?Thanks for reading my question :^)and thanks for submitting an answer if you do :^D Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Everyone :^D
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Compliments will get you lots of answers!
Okay, firstly, how does your friend feel about you, has she given any indication that she likes you more than a friend? Hugs are a way to show affection to friends, and she obviously is an affectionate person, but since she hugs 'everyone' and not just you, I'd read into this that she likes you as a friend.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't give dating a try, but I'm saying if you do ask her out and she says no, you might lose your friendship anyway out of awkwardness!
If she says yes, and you go out, it could be wonderful or it could go badly, and if it does, your friendship will never be the same again. What you have to ask yourself is, ultimately, are you willing to risk your friendship on something that might not work? If she's a good a friend as you say, I'm guessing you'll say it isn't worth risking it.
I think you need to talk to her about it. Mentioning that you've been thinking about asking her out won't hurt your friendship as you aren't committing to anything, you're just asking her opinion.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): hey!!
this will not ruin your friendship! i belive it will make it better, trust me im a girl i know, why not give it a go? if she says no well theres plenty more fish in the sea!
good luck
from jojo
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