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writes: my ex and i might get back...we have been talking a little over 2 months. We will probably be meeting within the next few weeks..the thing that bothers me is its been about 5 or 6 times when it will be my turn to call and i do and there is no answer and no call back that night or for a night or two nights...I am leaving a v-mail so i know he is getting the calls. When we first started talking i really didn't think much of it b/c it was the beginning..but it still happens and its getting on my nerves...i called him last night and no answer..i decided an hour later to just text him saying goodnight almost like i didn't even expect for his call back and like i am not waiting for it either.of course all of those times it happened i didn't ask him b/c it might push him away and maybe he is testing my reactions to it like some guys do i have no idea..i only asked casually a few times and most he said he was sleeping, fell asleep early and woke up later at night or he was sick...the last time it happened i actually just decided to text him 2 days later asking how he was? and then he explained how he was gonna call and fell asleepi don't want to ruin anything before it starts but sometimes i am ready to text him just saying do you want me to call you less often or something like that but that might sound passive aggressive...but maybe i should let this go until we actually see each other and start dating again? Probably should miss his call for a few days i guess?
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reader, applebite8821  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I totally agree with Vivachacha, this has also worked for me. Although I have not gotten back with my ex but it has only proved my worth to him which I thought I'd lost.
The last time I returned all the stuff my ex has and he returned mine, I said goodbye to him. Then I never called him at all. After 2 weeks, he called out of the blue to say he wanted to see me. Since then he's the one sending me stupid messages just to get my attention. If I don't reply, he would send me a series of messages asking me why I don't reply and wanting to know where I am. All those stuff.
I know this is hard to do but believe me, he will miss your attention and will probably realize how he feels about you.
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reader, vivachacha +, writes (17 November 2009):
 It is said that in every relationship someone is doing the chasing and it sounds like to me you are chasing him. It's time to reintroduce the new you to him this is the only way you can get this issue under control if you really want him ignore him, that's right I said ignore him. Don't take any phone calls don't answer any text don't see him nothing. I don't care if it takes a month and i know it will be hard to do but you must. He will be the one calling after you keep this attitude and stay busy to keep your mind off of him and watch your voicemail become magiclly full within 3weeks tops then out the blue answer his call and sound really busy. LOL This works trust me. Also make it up in your mind to never chase after a man again let him do the chasing.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (17 November 2009):
 The only thing that i can say would be that Ex's are Ex's for a reason, and usually that reason is a very good one.
If you're seriously thinking of getting back together, yet you're not happy at this point even before you've figured it all out, then i'm afraid the future for this relationship doesn't look to bright.
I would re-consider your options and think about whether you want to get back into a relationship with this guy right now or whether you both need some time and space to really figure out if you want to be with one another because you truly love one another or whether neither of you want to be lonely.
I hope whatever you do it works out how you'd like it to.
good luck xxx
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (17 November 2009):
The only thing that i can say would be that Ex's are Ex's for a reason, and usually that reason is a very good one.
If you're seriously thinking of getting back together, yet you're not happy at this point even before you've figured it all out, then i'm afraid the future for this relationship doesn't look to bright.
I would re-consider your options and think about whether you want to get back into a relationship with this guy right now or whether you both need some time and space to really figure out if you want to be with one another because you truly love one another or whether neither of you want to be lonely.
I hope whatever you do it works out how you'd like it to.
good luck xxx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Sorry Hun, but you dont sound like you are on the top of your ex's list of important people!!!
Give him his space, stop contacting him and let him do the chasing... if he really wants to get back with you he will make the effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): I think you should wait till you see eachother and hit it off properly. My ex used to do this, call every night lol I didnt mind it but i just wasnt the talking type. Maybe your ex is not teh talking type (over the phone) and is imbarrest to tell you. You should ask!
goodluck
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