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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 3 years, a few months back we broke up because he ended up kissing another girl, we just stopped having any type of contact with each other. After a month of that we gradually got back into contact and soon ended up as 'friends with benefits', after that I think we realised what we meant to each other and I soon forgave him, although I can't fully trust him yet. I took a year out of studying last year, I got a part time job and have recently gone back into education, which seems to be a lot of work, but we make time for one another when we can. The only thing is it seems I'm just not interested in any type of sexual activity any more, I do try for him, but I just can't ever get in the 'mood' for it. Every time he tries I end up fobbing him off with the fact that I'm too tired. I'm worried this will put a strain on our relationship and he'll go searching for someone that will give him what he wants. I really don't understand why I have all of a sudden got such a low sex drive when before I had a high sex drive and was sort of up for anything like fancy dress ect. I'm not sure if it is anything psychical or emotional reasons to why this is happening, just need an outsiders opinion. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2012): I think maybe now that things are becoming more serious between you two again since you've gotten back together, you're realizing that you haven't fully forgiven him for what he did, and in fact you may feel resentment towards him, which is making you feel distant and not want any form of intimacy with him. It could also be that the bridge of trust has been broken, and its making your relationship feel incomplete.
If things don't improve over time, then maybe you should give up this relationship, because obviously something isn't fitting into place anymore.
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