A
female
age
26-29,
*icandyxoxo
writes:OK so I've been talking to this guy since the end of June. We met off of facebook, him and my friend were kinda friends, he asked me out and i said i wanna meet you first, so my friend told him too meet us at a field, and we met. When we looked into each others eyes i felt like the world stopped turning it was the greatest feeling ever. We didn't talk at all, we just sat and stared into each others eyes the whole time. Whenever we hung out my friend was there because he was my first boyfriend soo i was nervous, so one day he asked me on facebook if he could hang with me by himself, so i said ook.. soo we met at this cat walk cause we live by eachother.. and i was sooo nervous i was shaking and shaking and shaking, then i saw him and i wanted to run back and go home.. but i couldn't. so we walked too these cement blocks by this park, and we talked.. and then it was awkward silence so he made the move and kissed me. when he kissed me it was just perfect, i didn't stop smiling whenever i thought about it for a week, that's when i felt everything was real. so that was all over the summer time, then school started everything got rocky, we fought and fought and fought, we broke up and got back together at least once a week, because people would tell him stuff i never told them, and drama would start, soo finally he had enough and dumped me, we were broken up for 4 days, and i felt like it was real, then he took me back and he himself changed soo much! he was way more nice and romantic, then he found out from my friends bf that she had my pass, i gave it to her after we broke up because i know he didnt like her having it, soo i forgot she had it, he got so mad and dumped me.we now have been broken up for a good 4 or 5 days. i tried talking to him and he wouldn't look at me, and i asked if he cared he said no soo i said forget it, then i tried pouring my heart out to him. because well i love him and i feel like he is the one for me.. i don't know why i just feel soo much. so then i got a fortune cookie and it said, 'go away for the weekend to get things off of your mind.' well i was away for the weekend hoping things would get off my mind.. i seriously honestly feel this time is real, i haven't talked too him since Thursday. All i can think about is him being with someone else... and honestly when he is its gonna hurt so bad. I've tried soo hard getting over him, when i went on my trip i hung with other guys thinking it would get my mind off of him.. it didn't, it actually made it worse. i try so hard getting him off of my mind, i talk to my friends about things we enjoy talking about, some how the convo leads to him.. soo i was wondering how i can get over my first love? i still have hope for us, but not much.
View related questions:
broke up, facebook, got back together Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, danni123  +, writes (18 November 2012):
hi there ive read your question and i know all about heartbreak im with someone right now weve been together for 4 years and hes my first love we split up got back together many of times, and if this guy really does care cus 9 times out of ten he does REALLY care he will be ringing u in no time, the best way to make this work is to stop all contact and dont be begging for forgivness and crying to him telling him how much you love him because that simply doesnt work it actually pushes them away even more but if u think this guy is the one for you then try to make it work i thought it was the end so many times with my partner but he always rang me in the end and wanted to sort things out, if you stop trying to get hold of him and just ignore him wen ever u see him around hel worry so much that hes lost u hel have to ring you and make sure your still around, dont worry too much and if hes not the one for you just be with your friends and get out as much as possible do anything u can to take your mind of him, and try to avoid obssesive research in to his life cus it will make matters worse and therefore you wont be able to get over him that way, hope iv helped, take care x
A
female
reader, Aunty Audrey  +, writes (17 October 2012):
 teenage love is the sweetest and sometimes the toughest. As teens we sometimes make unwise decisions. or we get in too deep. or we fail to see the implications of one action over how it will affect others.
And as a young teen you are still finding your feet. working out what works and what does not.
And when you are a young teen delightful young boys who are interested in you either freak you out or delight you. In your case I am very happy that you enjoyed the sweet delight of your first kiss that really meant something to you.
In relationships there is always give and take.
But as a young teen we often think there is only one answer, and that is "what we want" as if there is no other answer.
You are still growing in confidence.
Rather then 'get over' him do you realise that in another five years you may meet him, 5 years more mature, and realise that there is still a spark there.
What you do need to do is forgive yourself if this relationship was not quite ready to launch.
I recall a boy barging into my class when I was only eleven and he was twelve, to tell me that he thought he loved me. I felt acute embarassment. I actually hate to think how I made him feel. But I was too young and I did not know what to say. So I just blurted out, "you can't say that" and he never spoke to me again. The others around me were laughing . He stormed off and I did not know where to look. I could have handled that more tactfully but I was only 11 so I forgave myself.
As far as him I suggest you pour out all your feelings and all your thoughts about him into a private journal and then close the journal and put it away somewhere safe. Your first kiss is special. Do NOT share the journal with anyone. It is PRIVATE and for your eyes alone.
Then in twelve months time re-read what you wrote and think about how far you have advanced since then.
Once you have written the journal then take stock of what activities you could add into your life to make your time busier. Think about an inexpensive hobby. Think about joining a group that helps the community. Anything that will keep you busy and occupied with uplifting safe and satisfying activities and bring you into contact with some good people. Keeping busy is always the best thing
Sometimes a project helps too. So if you could start a big tidy up of your bedroom and ask if you would be allowed to repaint the walls with some help and make your bedroom look more they way you want it can be a great project to focus on too if you parents are agreeable to this
...............................
|
