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writes:I'm not sure if my husband is hiding something from me. The other night we went to dinner and after went window shopping. A female said hi to him. I immediately said who was that. His first response was I dont know. So I said to him well think who was it. He got really angry and said I dont remember. I was just curious but he took it as if I was accusing him of something. He is so childish sometimes. I just couldnt believe he got so mad about it. He eventually told me that she was one of the moms from my sons wrestling team. I did know who he was talking about. But all this drama makes me wonder. Is he hiding something. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (16 October 2012):
 How does he act at other times when asked about someone in a similar situation? Usually when a man gets defensive, he's got something to hide. You have to look at his pattern of responses. If he's normally calm when questioned, then suddenly this times, gets defensive it could mean something. Does it mean he slept with her? No. But maybe he's fantasized about it and you now meeting her is putting him on the defensive. I'd keep my eyes open from here on out. That's all I can say.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (15 October 2012):
 Do you ever push him about other things or are paranoid about other things with him? I am that way with my husband at times. I will give him the third degree at times when I am paranoid and something seems off. Then other times when I am completely calm and just asking a couple questions, he assumes its my paranoia and snaps back at me. Then I get mad at him because I was just asking a simple question with no attitude. So your story sounds identical to what has happened to me. If you never push your husband with tons of questions or have paranoia and this was a totally random occurrence then I do find it odd. Otherwise he was probably just annoyed, didn't remember her, then got flustered when you pushed it. And the fact that you are so quick to assume this means cheating or lying shows you probably do have anxiety/paranoia/trust issues (for good reasons possibly) and it isn't the first time it's come up. But again if this is a first then it's pretty off.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 October 2012):
 I might not have been able to place her the first time you two ran into her.
Unless he has dome this thing before, I really wouldn't read more into it then that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 October 2012):
 yeah I too wonder why are you so concerned? what else is going on to be suspicious about?
I often forget folks names and faces... or both...
if a guy said hi to me and I didn't remember I'd say "i don't know" and if my hubby pushed me I'd have to think about it a bit...
You say he's so childish sometimes but you're "well just think who it was" is so parental that maybe he's childish because you treat him that way?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 October 2012):
 It's a little odd to say "I don't know," but more likely than cheating is that it was just a reflex to say rather than having to take the time to think about it, though I agree getting so incredibly defensive is a bit suspicious.
Has he done anything else that would make you suspicious?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (15 October 2012):
 Hard to say, maybe he was just p*ssed off that you insisted he think who this women was after he already said he didn't know.
Do you have other issues in your marriage that could lead you to be suspicious?
Does he spend a lot of time away from home or hang out with the parents of your kids wrestling team?
Has he ever cheated before in your marriage?
You just seem like you have grounds not to trust him so you tell us!
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